You may be a father, mother, boss, or employee. There are people out there searching Google about you. It’s amazing how many life secrets you can learn from a simple Google search.
The Google Autocomplete feature reveals it all. What are kids searching for about parents? What do employees want to know about their boss? The clues will help you build better relationships, improve your career, and it could even improve your family life.
Ready for some amazing insights into what other people want to know about you? Let’s start.
Why Does My Boss Hate Me?
As a boss, you may feel unsure about how your employees feel about you. Many employees gag themselves because of job insecurity or they just don’t feel comfortable being open and honest about it.
When it comes to Google, people shed all inhibitions and they search their darkest fears and insecurities.
What’s eye-opening is that the most popular search on Google is “why does my boss hate me”.
In fact, the top seven searches all have the same general feel. People want to know why their boss avoids them, picks on them, stares at them, and doesn’t like them.
Having worked as a manager before, it’s surprising how employees interpret innocent behaviors on your part. Most of the time, employees are reading a lot of unintended meaning into every facial expression you make, and every word you utter.
I had an overworked manager. Every time we had a meeting he would rub his forehead or pinch the bridge of his nose. It was obvious he was tired. But his expression—usually made when I was in the middle of a sentence—sent me the message that he was annoyed by what I was saying.
It turned out not to be the case at all. He didn’t realize how his body language was affecting our relationship.
The lesson to learn: Many employees are ultra-sensitive. They look for any sight at all that you’re dissatisfied with them. So it’s important to do your best to give off positive vibes when you’re not actually upset with them. It’s hard to do when you’re already tired, but it’ll go a long way toward building strong relationships with your employees.
Why Do My Employees Keep Quitting?
Employees aren’t the only ones who are self-conscious or have a fragile self-esteem. It turns out that your boss may be worrying just as much about how you feel about them.
The most common searches made by managers are “why do my employees keep quitting” and “why do my employees hate me.””
It’s revealing that both managers and employees are so worried about why the other hates them. This tends to suggest that both sides are overly paranoid about every facial expression and every word of the other side.
Instead of worrying so much about how much they hate you, why not do your best to be the most positive influence in their workday? No one can feel bad about that, right?
The lesson to learn: Unless you’re a truly horrible person, the odds are pretty good people left their job for a variety of reasons. Many of which have nothing at all to do with you.
Why Does My Wife Hate Me?
One of the most amazing things about studying Google search behaviors is how sometimes it tends to turn popular stereotypes completely upside down.
There are few other areas of Google searches that relate to marital relationships. The most popular searches are “why does my wife hate me”, and “why does my wife ignore me”. It seems to be a reflection of a deep lack of affection or attention many husbands feel in their marriages.
It’s interesting that the searches aren’t about sex, as many might assume, but about emotional detachment and feelings of neglect.
One of the most surprising searches—tossing all myths about the “male ego” out the window—is “why does my wife love me”, signaling that even when men are provided affection and love, they feel like they don’t deserve it.
On the other hand, the bottom few searches, about the wife sleeping, talking, or nagging too much, reveals a great deal about the lack of communication and openness in too many marriages.
The lesson to learn: If you’re feeling neglected as a husband, it’s important to communicate those feelings to your wife (rather than Google). You may be surprised how understanding she is, once you open up and share your feelings.
Why Does My Husband Hate Me?
It is absolutely shocking to see how many people search Google for insight into why other people hate them.
It’s also revealing when you compare the 2nd and 3rd most popular searches by wives, with the most popular searches by husbands. Countless wives ask Google why their husbands are looking at porn, and countless husbands use Google to understand why their wives are ignoring them. There really seems to be a disconnect somewhere, doesn’t there?
The lesson to learn: The same advice for husbands apply to wives. If you’re feeling neglected by your husband and feel that his attention is elsewhere, it’s important to communicate those feelings—not in word, but in deed, since that’s how men communicate. You may be very surprised how understanding he is once you start to express that you’d like more attention.
Other things learned from husband/wife searches:
- Both feel like the other sleeps too much
- Both wonder why the other lies so much
- Husbands feel like wives nag, stink, and talk too much
- Wives feel like husbands snore and look at porn and other women too much
Why Does My Father Hate Me?
It’s shocking to see how in nearly every human relationship explored in Google Search, the top most popular search is about being hated. Searches about dads are no exception to this. The number one search is “why does my father hate me?”
Kids are pleading with Google to explain why their dad hates, beats, or hits them. This just proves there’s so much wrong with the world today. Beyond that, apparently, kids feel like their fathers are bullying, belittling, and verbally abusing them.
The lesson to learn: As a dad, you may not even realize how severely your actions and words are being interpreted by your kids. Let Google be your wake-up call. They take it very seriously, so make sure your words and your actions are measured and wise.
Why Does My Mom Hate Me
Along the general theme of these searches, kids also plead to Google to explain why their mom hates them. According to what children are asking Google, mothers are beating and hitting their kids as well.
It isn’t only husbands who think wives talk too much, kids are asking Google why their mom does that as well. Whether or not these searches are an accurate presentation of reality is a whole other matter. Remember, these are searches posted from the perspective of children, and how they perceive things affects the words they use to search. For example, while they may ask Google why their fathers verbally abuse them, they ask Google why their moms always yell.
The parental behavior may be similar, but the feeling is from a child’s point of view. It’s hard to judge the real story from what children are typing into the Google search field. But it is very revealing, isn’t it?
The lesson to learn: No one ever created a manual for parenthood, unfortunately. So being a good parent sometimes means listening, more than you talk. Show a child the right way to behave by compassion, rather than violence.
Why Does My Son Hate Me?
Now that we know what kids are searching for about their parents, what are parents searching for about their kids?
One thing that is very apparent is that most parents are terribly concerned about their kids getting sick or ill.
For boys, that means sleepwalking, throwing up, sweating too much, pink-eye, fevers, and generally getting sick.
Of couse, as is the case with almost every other relational search, parents wonder why their son hates them.
Lesson to learn: Kids get sick, parents. Relax.
Why Does My Daughter Hate Me?
Having two daughters of my own, I find it difficult to understand how a parent could worry that their daughter hates them, but apparently many do worry about exactly that.
Interestingly, parental searches about daughters are similar to searches about sons. Parents get very worried about their kids getting sick. For daughters this includes things like urinary tract infections, coughing, feers, and general sickness.
A noteable search is parents searching for more information about why daughters want to wear a chest binder—a common initial sign that a daughter actually feels like she’s a boy.
This is a difficult subject for parents going through it, and an even more difficult process for a child to go through. It’s outside the scope of this article, but if you find yourself in this situation, there are a lot of organizations out there where you can find support.
Lesson to learn: Kids get sick parents. Relax.
Let’s Put an End to Hate
One of the most important lessons to take away from his exercise is the fact that everyone feels hated. It’s sad when you reflect on the fact that this fear affects everyone, from bosses and employees to spouses, kids, and parents.
This is a tragic situation where everyone is silently in fear of being hated, unaware that they alone have the power to feel more love, by expressing more love.
By treating others how you wish you’d be treated, you’ll discover that people respond in kind. When you show love, you receive love—and what this analysis of Google searches shows is that the world is depressingly short on expressions of love.