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How Facebook Is Turning You Into Someone Your Friends Ignore

Joshua Lockhart 26-03-2013

facebook etiquetteEvery company has its secret sauce, and Facebook is no different. The social network utilizes a special sharing algorithm called “EdgeRank” 8 Tips To Increase EdgeRank & Exposure For Your Facebook Page Updates [Weekly Facebook Tips] If you run a Facebook Page, you probably noticed that there was a change in your reach since September 2012. This is because Facebook revised how its EdgeRank algorithm worked for Pages, making it a... Read More which decides what your friends see whenever you interact with the pages of companies and brands. How does the algorithm work? The magic is a bit vague, but you’ve probably seen the evidence of its existence.


For instance, it’s the same reason why you see posts that say “Joshua Lockhart likes MakeUseOf’s photo” along with the actual image and its caption. It’s also why you see sponsored posts on your smartphone. Some speculate that this is even why your News Feed autonomously changes from Most Recent posts to Top Stories so often.

It’s not just a fluke, ladies and gentlemen. There’s a science to it.

With that said, the blame does not rest solely on your friends – a lot of it is on Facebook’s part, too. Just remember, though. When it comes to Facebook, you’re the product, and advertisers are the buyers. While social networking is a great tool, you should at least be aware of what your role entails.

How You Lead Your Friends To Brands

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Your mother may share lots of images depicting misused memes originally posted by pages with titles like Just 4 Laffs! or Get A Free iPad : ) LOL. But here’s a question for you: did she really share it?


You see, Facebook – using EdgeRank, mind you – will occasionally publish items that your friends Like on your News Feed while they are completely unaware. Primitively speaking, it does this simply because it thinks you will Like whatever they Like, too.

There’s a bigger problem with this than imaginary free iToys, though. Your friends on Facebook are probably a colorful lot, and chances are that they all have a wide range of humor and vices. We all know that you likely browse Facebook at work, but what happens when a photo of a busty bikini bombshell appears on your feed just as the boss passes by your desk? By the power invested in Donald Trump’s hair, you will be fired.

Unfortunately, this means that even your Likes are being shared. It doesn’t even have to be posted by a product – your friends’ post can be published just as well. If you would prefer to not be a walking virtual billboard, there are few methods to save yourself from being ignored by your friends.

  • Like Responsibly: Could the posts you tend to Like cause someone to get fired?
  • Check Your Activity Log: You have the option to unlike every public item on here.
  • Hide Pages You Like: This can possibly prevent items being unintentionally shared.

How Your Likes Promote Brands

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In a similar manner, Facebook will shamelessly promote products using you and your friends as blind testimonials. These advertisements come in the form of Sponsored Posts, and you will often see them paired with a line that says something along the lines of “Joshua Lockhart likes MakeUseOf”.

These posts blatantly use your identity as a seed for the purpose of advertising, and by all appearances, it seems as if you are sharing them. This one is a bit easier to get around, though. You can go into your Facebook Ads Setting and turn off the ability to pair your name with ads.

If you visit this page, you’ll also notice an sign of what may be coming to Facebook advertising How Facebook Advertising Works & How To Place An Advert If you've ever considered advertising on Facebook, but assumed it was completely unaffordable except for the largest companies and corporations, you may want to think again. If you've ever advertised on Google, using the pay-per-click... Read More on the horizon. The settings feature a section titled “Third Party Sites”, and this may raise some alarms for you. Although the service does not currently do this, it does make note that it may eventually extend the right to use your picture and name for advertisements on third party sites in the future. It’s obvious that this would make use of Facebook in some way, but you can take preemptive measures and change your settings so that no one can see your information if this comes to pass.

Are You Being Ignored?

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Take a look at the pages you Like. Heck, take a look at the pictures you Like. Are they classy and professional? On the other hand, are the sleazy and obnoxious? You be the judge.

Lets be real, though. You have every right to Like whatever you want on Facebook. Every product needs access to its demographic, and by clicking that Like button, you’re helping the EdgeRank system.

However, if you prefer use Facebook as a method of communication, then you may want to reconsider your actions. Call me a prude, but there have been countless times that I have ignored certain friends because of their posts. I’d rather an awkward misunderstanding not happen while I’m out and about.

With the new Graph Search, privacy is already hot topic on Facebook Prepare Your Account Privacy For Facebook Graph Search [Weekly Facebook Tips] Every time Facebook releases a new feature to learn more about our friends, many people realise that their privacy settings are not adequate anymore. Their latest new feature, Facebook Graph Search, is no exception -... Read More these days, but is there a victim in any of this? Does Facebook have the right to share your Liked items and use your name and image for advertising? I’m of the opinion that they have every right to. Similarly, I have every right to ignore whoever I want, effectively limiting an ad’s broadcast range.


It’s a free service, after all. Why should anyone complain? We’d like to know your answers to these questions, though. Let us know what you think in the comments.

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  1. DanTheMan
    January 8, 2017 at 2:34 pm

    Honestly I think that people would be a lot happier if Facebook was a subscription service to minimize the 'ignored syndrome'. Maybe with something where people wouldn't want to friend you just to be nosey to someone else. However, the current social stigma these days is that if you're not on Facebook, then you're not in the know or you're a hermit. There is actually pressure to spam and share things and if you don't then you're a loser or if you spam the wrong kinds of things like something that someone considers cringy or nerdy then that's even worse.

    I think that a lot of people 'like' or post things on facebook that make them seem one dimensional . People make assumptions about you because of that and likes can be accidental or taken out of context. Putting yourself out there is really bad because not everyone values the same things that you do and this really hurts your ability to get out of your social circle and to where you want to be. People want to be all up in your perceived business anyways so having social anxiety

    I've met people because of facebook and gone to in person events with them and had a really good time only to never speak to most of them ever again probably because something else 'better' comes along. A few people that I've met in person are still my friends to this day even with their busy lives.

    But now people can refuse anyone that they want no matter how close to our inner circle they are. I honestly think that these things like social media are going to go away when people realize they're making their lives more complicated than they need to be. All you need is a phone number and if someone isn't worthy of your number, then just don't give it out and don't feel the need to put yourself out there. You just don't have to.

    • OJosnnie
      July 24, 2017 at 2:15 am

      Great comment.Thanks...jw.

  2. Chris Marcoe
    March 26, 2013 at 2:34 pm

    I think its a bit ironic that MakeUseOf has us post to Facebook and other social networks to earn points. I know for me: Getting spammed with a bunch of things are the first thing that will get you ignored. Not that its gonna stop me..hehe

    • Joshua Lockhart
      March 26, 2013 at 3:35 pm

      Baha. True. We won't deny that we'd like you to like our articles on Facebook.

  3. Guy McDowell
    March 26, 2013 at 11:20 am

    Well done! That explains a lot about what I've been seeing on Facebook. Good show Joshua.

  4. bben
    March 26, 2013 at 11:20 am

    It is extremely difficult to get across to a 13 year old that 'liking' toilet humor or NSFW posts and sharing them with his so called 'friends' now - will cause him problems in 5 years when he is applying for a job that requires a low level security clearance.

  5. Scott M
    March 26, 2013 at 10:59 am

    I'm very careful on all social sites.Some good tips here.

  6. Nevzat A
    March 26, 2013 at 7:03 am

    I think Facebook's Edgerank does not work properly. I don't see many of friend's status messages, so I miss many things. The system is flawed!

    • Scott M
      March 26, 2013 at 10:58 am

      I agree!

  7. Asif Mistry
    March 26, 2013 at 6:23 am

    is it okay if i like this on facebook

  8. Jeremy Garnett
    March 26, 2013 at 4:30 am

    This article tied nicely into stream of thought I have been pondering for the past couple of months. Though I have yet to do so, I intend to migrate the majority of my sharing to Tumblr, especially the articles I like but have nothing particular to contribute to. Images are to be classified in Pinterest. Where I can write a paragraph or more, I intend to add a post on my personal blog. Each of these services offers an aggregation module on Facebook, and for any particular posts I intend to share with the majority of my facebook friends, IFTTT comes in handy.Having tried similar migrations in the past, I first intend to lock down guidelines beforehand. Whether it goes as planned, well that is something to review in 6 months or so.