When it comes to online dating, you’ve probably seen it all—from hookup apps to apps you can use to find new friends, to platforms where you can’t always text your match first. But what about an app that matches you with other people based on what you both hate?
In comparison to big sharks in the pool of online dating like Tinder or Bumble, Hater dating app is rather new. And it seems like the app developers have found a new angle: connecting you with people who hate the same things you do.
But will it become the perfect recipe for a perfect dating app, or is the interest towards the app fizzling out already?
Time to Date Haters
In some cases, hate is a stronger emotion than love. So why not try and build a connection with someone you see eye to eye with when it comes to hating things?
If you used Tinder and other swiping apps before, you’ll get certain familiarity with Hater. However, in this app it’s combined with crying babies on the plane, bad wifi, and other stuff we all hate.
Sounds like something you’d give a try? That was my thinking, so I went on Hater to see what all the fuss is about for myself.
The Perks of Using Hater
A few things about Hater stood out for me. I’ll begin by pointing out those that pleasantly surprised me.
1. No More Facebook
The ultimate problem of many dating apps that scares users away is having to log in using your Facebook account. Some apps will even let your friends you’re using an online dating app if you don’t opt out of it straight away.
You can use Hater with just a phone number. You will have to fill in your personal information instead of Facebook auto-fill. But your privacy is worth it.
2. Simple Registration Form
Thankfully, there isn’t much to fill in. All personal information the app is asking of you is your first name, date of birth, gender, and your preference.
You can also upload up to five pictures of yourself to make your profile a little more personal. But really what adds more personality is when you start swiping love or hate on the topics suggested by Hater.
Your “top hate” will display as a part of your profile and it’s what other users will see when you come up on the app.
3. In-App Icebreakers
One big feature of Hater that puts it above other dating apps is that the app attempts to do the hard work of coming up with the first line for you.
Don’t know what to text your match? Use Hater’s creative ice-breaker: play a “hater card” with sentences and questions that you and your match will need to fill in with your own funny responses. So instead of sending plain “hey” or awkward “what’s up” out into the void you can show off your sense of humor and secure your match’s attention.
4. Making Real Life Dates Easier
One of the problems that swiping-type apps have is their lack of personality. Thus, instead of making blind dates less awkward, they achieve quite the opposite.
Hater can help you ignite conversation, even if it’s something silly like discussing whether and why you both hate alarm clocks. The app experience itself is something you can use to sustain a light and fun conversation with your date.
The App You’ll Love to Hate
Of course, where there is light, there must be a shadow. So let’s look at the app’s “shady” side and see if Hater is that special after all.
1. Local vs. Global
Once you start looking for other Haters, you find another cool option: you can browse for matches both locally and globally. In your profile settings, you can determine the location range, starting with just one mile.
While that’s a cool way to meet people from all around the world, it presents certain issues. Like the choice overload — with so many options to choose from, is it really possible to find love online?
2. Not Enough “Haters”
Ironically, in today’s mean world it seems like there aren’t enough haters out there. Due to the low number of users available to match with, you might find yourself frustrated browsing through all the interesting people who live hundreds of miles away from you. When there aren’t any local matches left for you, the app automatically shows you people from “global” search.
3. Recent Update Problems
The app’s score on both Google Play and Apple Store has dropped and it seems like it’s the result of the app’s recent update. In addition to slowing the app down, it causes accidental crashes and loss of image and/or chat content. However, the users that have been using the app prior to the latest update testify that Hater used to be lag-free.
4. Starting Off Negative
While letting people in the darkest corners of your personality by sharing your “deal-breakers” and negative thoughts with them is a great way to build lasting friendships online, it might not work quite as well if you’re looking for a romantic partner.
Imagine if you view someone’s profile and learn that they hate something that’s a part of your everyday routine. Or maybe something they love doing drives you insane. That could cause you to rule out the chance of meeting that person without giving them a chance.
“Haters” in Your State
Want to find out what people in your state hate most?
Having collected months worth of data about what people despise, Hater created a map of the most hated things in each state. One thing is clear, people hate a lot of weird things.
That’s not true for all the states, of course. Some of the turn-offs are understandable. Like California being annoyed by fidget spinners, or Minnesota not being a fan of drinking alone. At the same time, there are parts of the country that hate some pretty awesome things. Like, what’s wrong with graffiti, sand, or feminism? Do ask the Nevada Hater users if you happen to meet them.
Ironically for people who are using a dating app, the biggest turn-off for D.C. “haters” is the concept of finding a soul mate.
Whether you agree with the Hater users from your state about what’s the absolute worst, this map is certainly a proof that you can find someone to share in your hate. Even if your idea of the perfect match is someone who hates cheap coffee as much as you do.
Love It or Hate It?
At this point, there’s no telling whether Hater will become the next most popular dating app, or if the hype around its new approach will slowly fizzle out together with its users.
But for those who believe that online dating can be fun, tired of Tinder and looking for something different, Hater will certainly be worthwhile.