Self Improvement

6 Speaking Tips That Will Make People Want to Listen to You

Joel Lee 30-06-2016

Have you run into situations where you’re talking but nobody seems to care? Over time, maybe you’ve even noticed that people just don’t like listening to you for some reason. And I’m not just talking about scenarios of public speaking Slay These 8 Public Speaking Demons to Conquer Your Fear It's often said that people fear public speaking more than death. But it's something that many have to do regularly. Here are eight public speaking demons and how to kill them. Read More .


This 10-minute talk by Julian Treasure explains why that might be the case and what you can do to make yourself more pleasant to the ears of others:

If you don’t have the time to listen to the whole thing, here’s a quick summary of his points. I do recommend listening to the whole thing though. He has some helpful nuggets of wisdom in there.

First, the Seven Deadly Sins of Speaking.

  • Gossip: Speaking ill of someone who isn’t present.
  • Judging: Looking down on other’s choices.
  • Negativity: Pessimism and cynicism.
  • Complaining: Spreading misery around.
  • Excuses: Always throwing the blame elsewhere.
  • Exaggeration: Overstating the degree of something.
  • Dogmatism: Presenting opinions as facts.

Then, the Four Cornerstones of Speech.

  • Honesty: Being true, straight, and clear.
  • Authenticity: Being yourself.
  • Integrity: Doing what you say you will.
  • Love: Wishing others well.

All of the above is about what you choose to say, but here are the actual tips for how to speak your words.

  • Register: Speaking from the chest instead of the nose or the throat.
  • Timbre: Developing the richness of your voice.
  • Prosody: Speaking with inflection and rhythm instead of being monotone.
  • Pace: Changing the speed of your words to emphasize excitement or importance.
  • Pitch: Delivering words at different intensities to convey emotion.
  • Volume: Speaking loudly or softly for emphasis.

With these tips and a good amount of practice, you’ll be able to speak in a way that commands attention. Got any other tips for speaking well? Share with us below!

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Related topics: Public Speaking, TED Talks.

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  1. Anonymous
    July 4, 2016 at 11:45 pm

    All you need is to show personality when you're speaking, that way there's no tension or awkwardness.

    • Joel Lee
      July 13, 2016 at 8:32 pm

      That's true to a degree, but it's much easier said than done. That's where tips like these come into play. :)

  2. Anonymous
    June 30, 2016 at 2:08 pm

    I think wishing everyone love regardless of whom they are contradicts the former statement of not to exaggerate :)