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5 Ways Social Media Is Ruining Romance

Joshua Lockhart 11-12-2013

Social media has changed relationships as we know it. If you’re dating someone, it’s public, and unfortunately, some portions of your relationship are, too.


In the past, relationships were treated a bit like a slow cooking dinner. They developed and grew over time. But with social media, many relationship features are expedited ever so slightly. Since all of your significant other’s info is out in the open, this may prove to be a problem. In fact, it can completely ruin romance.

It’s Hard Bringing Anyone Home To Mom Anymore


Used to, you planned for it: the day he comes to meet your parents.

Back then, it meant something — they didn’t know him! But we now live in a citizen surveillance state Who's Spying On You? And How To Stop Them? You will benefit from reading through this infograph, understanding when you're most vulnerable to snooping, and learn what you can do about it. Read More . Don’t think for a minute that your parents haven’t already snooped on his online social profiles. Googling anyone is pretty darn easy these days.

What’s the remedy for this? Sadly, private profiles, and most people would recommend doing this anyway. But honestly, it might be a bit awkward to ask, “Sweetheart, do you mind adjusting your Facebook privacy settings until you meet my family?”


While you can’t make such a request, at least you can take the initiative and change your settings to make the experience a bit more special for your SO. Make those settings private so when it’s time to meet Ma and Pa, they will feel like they are officially meeting you for the first time.

Your Dating History: Permanent Record!


Unless you opt to go in and delete every single post, comment, and photo, your past dating life is pretty much permanent on Facebook (and in some cases, even Twitter). While it’s certainly easy to remove a “JOEY IS IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH MANDY” story, it’s not as easy to get rid of all the silly tags and notes you typically have in a relationship.

That said, whoever you date will also experience who you formerly dated. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing — it’s a part of your life, after all. But depending on who you were and who you were dating in the past, some things are best left unseen.


Wasted Meaningful Conversation


Too often conversations via Facebook, email, and text messaging Happy 19th Birthday Text Messaging [INFOGRAPHIC] It’s hard to believe but it has been just over 19 years since the first text message was sent from a computer to a mobile phone, and 18 years since the first phones were produced... Read More allows for instant satisfaction for either party. That is, if you have something serious or deep you would like to eventually talk about with your SO, you may not necessarily wait until you see them in person. It’s incredibly easy to think, “I wonder what she thinks about what happens after we die,” and send off a text right away.

An easy way to remedy this is to avoid deep topics all together via text. Instead, use text messages for their original purpose: short, brief notes that are more convenient than making a phone call.

Unwrapping A Person’s Life Is Just Too Easy



There are certain conversations that must be had in any relationship:

  • Tell me about your first boyfriend!
  • What are your spiritual beliefs?
  • Show me some pictures of you when you were a kid.
  • Where did your family used to vacation?
  • What are your hopes and dreams in life?

All of these — through the power of social media — are now incredibly easy to uncover.

Maybe you don’t have to upload each and every thing about yourself to Facebook. Perhaps it’s possible to leave a little to the imagination.

I Want You To Meet My Friends! Oh. Wait.



It’s inevitable. As soon as you become Facebook official, all of your friends are going to add your new beau

They are going to creep on him. Snoop through his pictures. Look at all his status updates from way back in 2008. That’s each and every single one of his posts.

Again, this may be relieved by privacy settings, but, eh, probably not. This is just a fact of life, and hopefully, your friends just aren’t nosy.

What To Do?

As mentioned above, many of these problems can be remedied by better privacy settings. And here, we’ve got you covered. From making sure you don’t appear in weird Graph Searches Prepare Your Account Privacy For Facebook Graph Search [Weekly Facebook Tips] Every time Facebook releases a new feature to learn more about our friends, many people realise that their privacy settings are not adequate anymore. Their latest new feature, Facebook Graph Search, is no exception -... Read More and helping you through Facebook’s latest privacy settings Make Sure You're Secure With Facebook's New Privacy Settings: A Complete Guide Facebook also means two other things: frequent changes and privacy concerns. If there’s one thing we’ve learned about Facebook, is that they’re not really concerned about what we like or our privacy. Nor should they... Read More , all the way to a complete Facebook privacy guide The Complete Facebook Privacy Guide Privacy on Facebook is a complex beast. Many important settings are hidden out of sight. Here's a complete look at every Facebook privacy setting you need to know about. Read More . Just take your pick, and bring back some romance to your life!

Image Credits: Alexandre Dulaunoy via Flickr, Benjamin Reed, terren in Virginia, Beth Haughtbbymes59, iwona_kellie

Related topics: Facebook, Online Dating, Online Privacy.

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  1. Bhad-Ahas
    December 11, 2013 at 10:01 pm

    Thankfully, I don't use social networking whatsoever, so this puts me at an immense advantage to all the sheep.

    • Kelly
      December 16, 2013 at 6:07 am live under a Rock too!

  2. Steven G
    December 11, 2013 at 9:30 pm

    It is simple one rule...if you dont want anyone to know....DONT POST IT