How can I change my Facebook relationship status without notifying everyone?

Dmitriy June 5, 2010

Before Facebook changed its design a while ago, there was a way for a person to change their relationship status without it showing up on every friends’ news feed, thus avoiding the possible drama and such. However, that way is no longer possible, and I want to know whether or not is there a new way that could be achieved. Greatly appreciated.

  1. Antcar90
    March 12, 2012 at 12:14 am

    I added my relationship status and saved it says its waiting on confirmation but the other person never got the request. So they added me on there's and its the same I never got the request any one know why

  2. Jay
    December 16, 2011 at 3:08 am

    For those who think it is not working anymore, many facebook options will keep playing hide n seek by changing their locations, but they are still there.
    open :

    Those who want to hide it set it to only me or selected friends

    For similar details :
    Read my instructions here :
    (and also the warning!)

  3. guest
    December 8, 2011 at 3:15 pm

    my relationship status ISN'T getting published and i want it to!!! anyone know how to fix it?

    • Jay
      December 16, 2011 at 2:56 am

      Hey guest, open

      make sure your privacy setting is not restricting the visibilly. set it to friends only.

      And update your relationship status.

      I hope you did not set it to 'only me' as suggested by the posters on this question, it will hide your relation as per the demand of the main question :)

      As you will have to update once more in order to show it to others on friends' feeds,
      read my instructions here:


  4. Jfduque
    November 9, 2011 at 4:09 am

    DON'T DO IT! Just tried it and no matter what setting you have it on (even if 'Only Me' can see it), once you change your relationship status it gets published!

    • Jay
      December 16, 2011 at 2:31 pm

      yes you saw it, but only you can see it, that what "only me" does.

      you can test it here :

  5. guest
    February 24, 2011 at 5:18 pm

    Every time Facebook changes it gets MORE DIFFICULT! For Pete's sake Facebook, STOP IT! Just STOP IT!!!

  6. Paulina
    February 12, 2011 at 3:42 pm


  7. Jessica Cam W.
    June 8, 2010 at 7:01 am

    Just reiterating what Jack said:

    1. Click on "Account" on the top right corner of > select "Privacy Settings"
    2. Click on "Profile Information"
    3. On the fifth line that says "Family and Relationship", click on the drop-down menu and select "Custom"
    4. On the new dialog box, choose to "Make this visible" to "Only Me" (or "Specific People" if you want your boyfriend/girlfriend to be able to see your relationship; just type their name) > click "Save Setting".

    Done! To test it out, click on "Preview My Profile" on the top right of that "Profile Information" page. In the "This is how your profile looks to most people on Facebook" box, type the name of one of your friends and click Enter. You should not see your relationship status.

    • Meganmshields
      March 26, 2012 at 7:28 pm

      okay, so i want to make updates to my profile (education, pix...) and i don't want to ping friends with the annoying posts that i just did x and y.  can i somehow make it so folks don't get the pings of my changes... that the changes just exist?

    • harvey
      May 6, 2012 at 2:32 pm

      What if I'm tagged in a relationship update of my significant other and one of their friends comments on it? Will that pop up in people's news feed if I'm tagged?

  8. Jack Cola
    June 6, 2010 at 4:22 am

    I do remember that you can do that, but not sure any more.

    I am not sure if this will work, it might.

    In your privacy settings, set your "Show relationship" to only me. Change it to what you want, and then turn it on. Hopefully, facebook won't remember the change and publish it on your wall.

    If you want to test it out, maybe select one person to view your relationship, then add another person to view it and see if it appears on there wall.

    Apart from that, I don't think there is another way.

    • Jay
      December 16, 2011 at 3:39 am

      yes Jack, it still works, only the location is changed.
      you will now find it in profile >>edit profile >> friends and family.

      may be they will change this also in the future!

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