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Tinder is in the hot seat. More and more people are downloading the female-friendly Bumble app for their matchmaking needs, loosening Tinder’s grasp on the online dating world.

The reason for this? There are many, and each is a reason why you should be using Bumble to find your next match made in heaven.

Made for Girls

Unlike Tinder, Bumble prides itself on being an app in which girls are required to make the first move. And that reason alone has gotten women from all over the world excited, evident by the over one million active users and the growing amount of support. The buzz around Bumble is positive, and it intends to stay that way.

By allowing girls to make the first interaction, women can more easily decide who they want to talk to. Which is important, because women often get bombarded with sexist and demeaning messages Here's What Dating Sites Are Like If You're A Woman Here's What Dating Sites Are Like If You're A Woman As an experiment I set up accounts on three of the more popular free dating websites, then spoke to some women about their experiences. Here’s what happened. Read More on Tinder and other dating apps. Don’t be “that guy, 4 Ways to Avoid Being "That Guy" on Tinder 4 Ways to Avoid Being "That Guy" on Tinder If your Tinder experiences aren't paying off, you may need to reexamine your game, and the problem may be in the way that you're presenting yourself. Are you that guy on Tinder? Read More ” it’s not cool, and women have had enough.

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How Bumble Is Great for Guys

And although the app is made for girls, it’s also great for guys.

How so? By pushing aside gender dating game norms and allowing women to essentially command the conversation.

A person who makes the first move, according to studies, is often in control. And research shows that people feel more positive when in control. When a woman on Bumble matches with a guy, she has 24 hours to start and essentially command the conversation. If she doesn’t want to say anything, she won’t. She has all the power, and while correlation doesn’t always mean causation, she should be more positive about chatting. That’s what the studies say, at least.

A positive chat should allow for more dates, which is great news for any guy. And also a problem solver for the next topic.

Tip: If a guy matches with a girl who doesn’t start the conversation, a guy can extend one match per day for an additional 24 hours. Make note, though, that girls still have to start the conversation.

Gay Friendly

If it’s not a heterosexual relationship you’re after, don’t worry. Bumble is an attractive option for anyone looking for love.

In fact, with same-sex matches there are no restrictions on who starts the chat, as the app explains in a recent update:

“If you connect with someone of the same sex for dating or just match with a friend, these rules don’t apply. Connect with anyone you want and either one of you can send the first message. Just make sure it’s within the first 24 hours!”

Great for Finding Friends

Bumble is also good for finding friends, which isn’t even an option on Tinder.

If you’re done with trying to find a bro/chick-friend at the bars, Bumble might be a worthwhile option. It’s just as easy as swiping right and could be a solution for finding friends if you’ve moved to a new city, state, or country, or just want to find someone who has your same interests.

Tip: Finding friends is easy. Just change your settings to show BFF, (Bumble’s official friend zone) swipe right on a person of interest and start chatting.

Bumble’s Ban on “Ghosting”

Bumble has also been tackling the problem of ghosting, which is when a person drops the conversation for no reason at all. That sucks. And many people, and I’m sure you’re one of them (I know I am), have been ghosted for no obvious reason.

To deal with this online dating phenomenon, which originated on Tinder, Bumble updated its app, saying “every chat that is started now requires a reply within the following 24 hours, or that chat expires. No ghosting allowed!”

Bumble’s recent update is an attempt to put an end to the often dreadful online dating outcome — null conversations. If you’ve matched with a person of the opposite sex, Bumble only allows the woman to start the conversation and only within 24 hours (though, paid updates allow for longer response times). The update has been described as mostly positive.

Less Spam Bots on Bumble

Also, and this one is very important, Bumble has seemingly decreased the number of spam bots. You know, those pesky profiles of people who’d rather link you to a sex site instead of a having an actual conversation.

On that note, be careful when swiping right on Tinder Why Swiping Right on Tinder Might Get You More Than a Date Why Swiping Right on Tinder Might Get You More Than a Date Swiping right on Tinder could lead to quite unexpected results. Don't get left in the dark: Here's everything you need to know about the pitfalls of swiping right on Tinder. Read More , you just don’t know who or what you’ll swipe with.

Creating a “Movement”

After Bumble CEO Whitney Wolfe was ousted from the Tinder company, Wolfe wanted to make serious changes to the online dating world. In an interview with Time, Wolfe explained that Bumble is about igniting change, creating a movement:

“It’s not a dating app, it’s a movement. This could change the way women and men treat each other, women and men date, and [how] women feel about themselves.” — Whitney Wolfe

And it seems that her vision has made progress. Bumble and Wolfe continue to voice their concerns about the problems of online and real-life dating and relationships. They continually support and rally behind women and men who may have been a subject of sexual harassment, bullying, or sexual coercion.

Wolfe, who later sued Tinder for sexual harrassment, thinks Bumble could help bring about respect among men and women. A tall order, especially in the online dating world.

Try Bumble for Yourself

While Bumble still uses the “swipe right for hot, left for not” approach, it’s making a big change to the online dating world. It’s redefining dating and how men and women see each other Online Dating - Men Don't Get It And Women Don't Understand Online Dating - Men Don't Get It And Women Don't Understand Do online dating websites work? It's time for a frank discussion! What I learned from interviews was that online dating is equally painful for men and for women, but for very different reasons. Read More . It’s also creating a more user friendly experience, with less spam and with more conversations.

If you haven’t already downloaded the app for your iPhone or Android, you should do so soon to find a BFF or date. You won’t regret it.

Have you downloaded Bumble? What has your experience been? Would you recommend this app instead of Tinder to your friends? Why or why not? Tell us your thoughts in the comment section below…

  1. Steve
    September 1, 2016 at 8:59 pm

    I have FB, and still do not want to share it willy nilly with anyone. I add people after I have got to know them, not before.

    Nor do I trust any company that says it will not post to my timeline. In which case, why do you want my FB login? Or is it just another way to harvest data to sell on? It certainly cannot be a some form of proof that a person is real given the sheer number of FB accounts that are fake.

    As soon as I see an app needs FB I think scam. I will be deleting this app before I have even started. I get the idea of a women centred app, especially after female friends tell me of their experiences of the lobotomised meatheads who contact them on other dating sites and apps but requiring FB as a prerequisite? Not for me.

    • shay
      September 3, 2016 at 10:23 am

      I plan on writing about dating apps and sites that don't require social media log-ins soon, as I think you and others share a real concern. While Bumble hasn't eliminated that problem, they have done a great job of giving females more control over the online dating game

  2. likefun butnot
    August 31, 2016 at 12:49 pm

    Yet another dating app that requires Facebook, shutting out people the still-enormous pool of people who choose not to use that service. This really should be mentioned any time a dating site is discussed.

    Based on friends' (mostly 30something professional women in NYC and Chicago) experience, here's what happens on Bumble: A decent percentage of guys using it are willing to say they like everybody, so women will get their 24 hour contact window fairly regularly. The dudes then don't respond again. Did they ghost? Yup! What did that help?

    Dating sites are and should be set up so that women can feel comfortable communicating in relative safety with unfamiliar men. That's as it should be. It's amazing that women want anything to do with guys at all, given how poorly things can and do go. But ghosting isn't the problem that needs to be solved. If you have a conversation on the internet and it stops, who cares? No harm, no foul. It's vastly more important to make sure that you're talking to people with whom you you are compatible in a way that limits unwanted attention. Aside from Bumble's reliance on Facebook data, I don't really think it does enough to address that. It's just another place for people to get messages from strange people.

    • shay
      September 3, 2016 at 10:19 am

      Dating apps/sites that don't require facebook or social media to register and/or to log-in will most likely be written about very soon. Thanks for bringing this to my attention.

      Bustle hasn't fully eliminated ghosting, which may or may not be a problem for some users, but they're tackling the issue, which is noteworthy. I do agree that it's more important to chat with a compatible person, and I think Bumble, Tinder, and other dating apps should make that more of a 'thing,' but for now the “swipe right for hot, left for not” approach seems to dominate. Hopefully that will change soon

  3. Jaden Peterson
    August 31, 2016 at 4:18 am

    Was this article written by a feminist?

    • shay
      September 3, 2016 at 10:24 am

      It was written by a guy who recognizes that women are often verbally attacked on social media and dating apps (and in real life).

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