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Quitting social media is easy. The hard part is handling what comes after this “extreme” step. I should know. I deleted all my social media accounts mid 2013.

There was no momentous event that led me to give up the likes of Twitter and Facebook. I felt like I needed a clean break from social media and I ensured that I got it.

I often purge things from my life in dramatic sprees. Social media just happened to be one of those things. Sure, I could have scaled down my social media usage or at least stuck with a single social network. But I don’t like half measures, so I ended up deleting every social account Why Is It So Hard to Delete Social Media Accounts? Why Is It So Hard to Delete Social Media Accounts? You can't just go to your account settings, click Delete and watch your profile vanish into a collection of ones and zeroes. The Internet is very good at remembering things. Read More with my name on it.

Let’s show you how that turned out. If you’re planning to give up social media How To Permanently Delete Your Facebook Account [Weekly Facebook Tips] How To Permanently Delete Your Facebook Account [Weekly Facebook Tips] For whatever reason you may have, one day you might find yourself wanting to delete a Facebook account. Perhaps you had a few accounts and want to delete the extra ones. Maybe you want to... Read More yourself, take notes.

Unexpected Reactions

When I quit I knew I might have to give the occasional explanation about why I wasn’t part of any social network. But I wasn’t prepared for the extremes of reactions that came my way from friends and strangers alike.

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First there was genuine concern from some people that something had gone wrong in my digital life Deep Down We're All Monsters. That's Why Social Media Is Great Deep Down We're All Monsters. That's Why Social Media Is Great We all know that social media updates aren't always authentic, but what's actually happening to our identity as we post that update to Facebook, or send that video over Snapchat? Read More . Some others thought I was just being contrary and tried to either cajole or coerce me into returning. A few were even scornful and responded with you-will-be-back-in-a-week smirks.

I continue to get similar reactions even now, although they have decreased in frequency and they don’t bother me like they used to do before. The people closest to me have somewhat accepted that I won’t be returning to social media anytime soon. That I’m more willing to meet them in person gets ignored. That I refuse to “stop being anti-social” online continues to be the topic of never-ending debate.

Feeling Directionless Online

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You might use the web for several things other than Facebooking, but once you give up Facebook, you’ll wonder what those other things are.

Yes, every time you open your browser, you might be at a loss to decide what to do. You won’t know where to go next, because your go-to web hangout — Facebook — is out. But don’t worry. This won’t last long. You’ll soon discover distractions of a different kind and even find more time to learn a new hobby Learn a New Hobby Today with 10 Popular Udemy Courses Learn a New Hobby Today with 10 Popular Udemy Courses Our hobbies are taking a back seat. Thanks to online classes, you can do something about it. Here are 10 popular Udemy courses to get you off the couch, and into a new hobby. Read More . I latched on to interesting newsletters and feeds as a replacement for social media.

Being out of the Loop

You know those moments when everybody knows what’s going on and you’re the only clueless person around? Expect many more of them. Not staying up to date on Facebook statuses and Twitter goings-on Why Everyone Needs Twitter in Their Lives Why Everyone Needs Twitter in Their Lives What can you get in a mere 140 characters that changes your life or has a deep, meaningful impact? Turns out, you can get a lot. Read More equals missing out on all the juicy references in conversations and not getting jokes because “you had to be there”. You’ll also have to field (several) requests to join other, often obscure social networks.

Want to see you best friend’s vacation photos? You’ll have to wait for her to mail them to you. It’s not like you can log in to Facebook yourself to see them, can you? Meanwhile everyone you know has seen them already.

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Sometimes I did wish I could create a private social network, but then I realized that it already exists in the form of group messaging apps like Hangouts and WhatsApp. Now I’m content to have one-to-one conversations or group video calls on Hangouts.

If you’re quitting social media, you’ll also need to find alternative, sometimes old-school, ways to keep in touch with friends and family — ways that are convenient for you and them.

Internet Gatekeepers

Only when you have deleted your Facebook, Twitter, and Google+ accounts will you grasp the extent to which the web depends on these three giants. I have had to forgo many interesting services for the sole reason that I didn’t have a Facebook account, a Twitter account, or a Google+ profile to sign in with. I wonder what happened to good old email signups.

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Derailed Job Searches

Job hunts are the worst hit by the lack of a social media presence. Awesome social media skills seems like a permanent fixture in job descriptions these days.

Staying up-to-date on LinkedIn Working Remotely Is The Future! This Is How LinkedIn Can Help You Working Remotely Is The Future! This Is How LinkedIn Can Help You A remote or telecommute job is the holy grail of job searching. Leverage the resources on LinkedIn to find your dream job. Read More , participating in Twitter chats, joining discussions in Facebook groups — these definitely open up more opportunities to get ahead in your career 10 Ways Social Media Can Boost Your Career 10 Ways Social Media Can Boost Your Career Social media can be an invaluable tool when looking for a new job, or even when trying to boost your skills for your current role. Try these ideas and see how you go. Read More . That’s not a bad thing at all. What’s disturbing is that social media skills are sometimes considered more important than the technical skills that are actually required to fulfill a role.

When it Comes to Social Media, Never Say Never

I do have one social media account. It’s work related and happens to be my MakeUseOf Google+ profile. I also use Twitter (without an account) to search for tweets to include in my articles.

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Last year I also created a Facebook account again because I was participating in an online challenge and it required participants to join a dedicated Facebook group. While the idea of supporting each other to ship a product in ten days appealed to me, the constant social interaction required as part of the contest rules felt overwhelming to me.

Once I decided to opt out of the challenge and continue with the project at my own pace, I felt relieved. And as I did not have any further use for the Facebook account, I deleted it (again!).

You’ll need to stay prepared to jump back into social media because some aspect of your work might demand it. See if you can find a suitable workaround instead. If not, think of social media as a means to an end and do what you can to make social networks help you at work Not Just For Slackers: 5+ Ways Social Networks Can Help You At Work Not Just For Slackers: 5+ Ways Social Networks Can Help You At Work For many of us, social networks are just a passing trend. We spent much of our lives without them, and we don't see them as necessary in any way. In fact, many of us tend... Read More . At the same time, don’t be afraid to cut down on your social media commitments if they’re detracting from your actual work.

Social Un-networking

My exit from the social media scene has sometimes frustrated (but mostly delighted) me.

Do I miss not being part of a social network? Not anymore. Maybe it’s because I know that I can go back to social media any time I feel like it. My introverted personality might also have something to do with it.

What’s the best thing about being off social media? The automatic shift in focus from what everyone else is doing to what you want to do. The fading Impostor syndrome, too!

Am I missing out on work opportunities by giving up social media? You bet I am, but I’m also drawing more of those that are perfect for me.

Will I ever become actively involved in any social network? Sure, why not? As long as it’s something I’m comfortable with or it’s a necessary aspect of a job/business I love, I have no problem using social media a second time. But I won’t make the decision lightly, because I don’t want to get caught up in a digital whirlwind What Happened When I Went Completely Offline For A Week What Happened When I Went Completely Offline For A Week Living in the Internet era has changed us to such an extent that the idea of having to live completely offline even for a little while sounds like a prison sentence. But it really isn't. Read More again.

Get Social (or Not)

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Many people thrive on and enjoy the kind of dynamic, fast-paced interaction The Positive Impact of Social Networking Sites on Society The Positive Impact of Social Networking Sites on Society Social networking isn't for everyone, but it's now such a massive part of all our lives, whether we embrace or reject the notion, that it can no longer be ignored. But are social networking sites... Read More that social media provides. But for many others, social media is just another distraction The Negative Impact Of Social Networking Sites On Society [Opinion] The Negative Impact Of Social Networking Sites On Society [Opinion] I have accounts on several social networking sites, and spend far too long on them writing my own updates and reading the updates of others. I enjoy doing so, being able to interact with friends,... Read More that feels like a necessary evil in these times.

As I see it, there are no definitive right or wrong approaches to social media. There are only those that work or don’t work for you. Of course, it’s still worth considering if we’re better off without social media Deep Down We're All Monsters. That's Why Social Media Is Great Deep Down We're All Monsters. That's Why Social Media Is Great We all know that social media updates aren't always authentic, but what's actually happening to our identity as we post that update to Facebook, or send that video over Snapchat? Read More .

Have you ever given up social media either temporarily or for good? What prompted you to do so? What came next? Tell us all about it in the comments!

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  1. RaZr
    September 15, 2017 at 4:10 pm

    I quit, facebook only brought me bad news, just kept the messenger active, due some foreign friends. Don't miss instagram or facebook. life is a lot better. I still watch some youtube, but only from my sub list (a very restricted and well thought list). Someday i might jump out of it too.

    Very nice read :D

  2. Neal
    September 12, 2017 at 1:47 am

    I had to get away. I am a recovering Facebook addict. I wasted hours on Facebook, and to perfectly honest , my being there, and choosing to engage on it has nearly ruined my life. I take full responsibility for y decision to engage and for my decision to quit.
    In addition to the harm my use abuse) Facebook was causing me and others around me, it was getting to the point where the targeted marketing was driving me crazy, and making me feel spied on, to say nothing of the constant barrage of fake news stories i had to constantly call out.
    The worst thing is the lack of civility on Facebook. at first it wasn't so bad but it has reached the point where everyone just shouts their opinion you as if it is Holy writ, and if you disagree they "block" you. I believe it has contributed to the lack of civility , and even outright hate going on out there.
    I am pleased to have left that world behind, at least online, but now that that kind of behaviour has spilled over into the real world, there really is no escape unless more people just tune out. The hate has been ratched up to such a feverish pitch that it may be past the point of no return, and that could be fatal to society.
    All that aside, for m, and probably many ors, it an addiction. I would find myself thinking about my next status , or comment even while lying in bed, or eating breakfast. Moments I should have been enjoying for what they were being dominated by social media even while offline!!!
    When I pulled the plug, the first few days required me to find all kinds of things to do justo stay away, and also detox from it all. It took several days before I was able to clear my head enough in order to function properly again.
    Some of you may not have had these extreme symptoms, but for those of us who have addictive personalities Social media is every bit as dangerous as alcohol or drugs in terms of what it can do to your work life, family life and other things.
    have, in part, written this not only to share my story, but also to make the case again to myself about why I must not go back.
    Can I get a witness?

  3. Ivy
    August 24, 2017 at 10:01 pm

    I gave up Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram this year. I did it slowly by deleting one account at a time when I saw that I wasn't benefitting from it anymore. I still have Snapchat, but I rarely post on it; I use it to talk to an acquaintance every now and then. I also have Goodreads and Pinterest but I don't use them in a social sense.
    My friends probably thought I was nuts or cowardly to get rid of social media, but it wasn't benefitting me anymore. I felt like my friends just wanted me around for their own benefit (a warm body to like their photos and dump their problems on).

    I am relieved that I am no longer in need of social media to feel validated and good about myself. It's bothered me for years (since 2012 or so) that I got addicted to social websites. So now that I've cut the cord, I'm so much better off.

    One caveat: I still have an Instagram account with 8 followers on it, and my husband also has one with 20+ followers. We don't use them hardly at all, and will likely delete them one day. We have these "mini accounts" as I call them to use as a backup for photos in case our phones crash, and we're not interacting with our followers much at all. My husband never saw the need to have social media accounts, and that is how I feel now also. There are much easier ways to connect with others; cards, letters, phone calls, and texts are a great way to keep in touch with people. I prefer phone calls (depending on the person) and use that to keep in touch with family.

    I think the world has a "digital obsession," and it's allowed people to forget how to honestly take the time to engage with someone one on one. Instead of telling someone they look nice in a photo, someone will hit the like button. I've had people on Facebook click 'like' instead of answering a question that I posted. How does that even remotely answer my question? It's so aggravating.

    I'm so glad I left social media, and I'm happy you did too. I just wish I had done it sooner.

  4. Jefferson
    August 18, 2017 at 9:42 am

    Social media is the root of all evil. All personal relationships have been displaced by modern technology. The internet will be gone in the next 20 years so get prepared.

  5. Dax Thomas
    August 2, 2017 at 11:41 am

    After coming across this article and giving it about a week's reflection... I officially got rid of my Social Media accounts. It was certainly hard the first few days not to go running back. Like the article says; when you open your browser, you sort of have to start actually exploring the internet for where you belong without the all mighty Facebook/Twitter/LinkedIN telling you where to go. I happened to find this awesome book service called "Book Crossing" - where you basically set your books free, and keep track of them. Now, I realize that I'm actually spending more time on my hobbies, I actually have a little more time in the day to something that makes me feel good. I feel like everyone should consider a social media break, even if only temporary.

  6. Lulu
    July 24, 2017 at 7:50 pm

    Anyone else creeped out getting friend requests from people who clearly dislike/are ambivalent towards you? I haven't been on FB for a while now, but remember getting requests from old acquaintances from either school or work who tended to be rude or ignore me in real life. Out of curiosity I'd accept just to see if they wanted to reach out, but 99.9% of the time they never made any attempt to engage, just lurked. To me it seems pointless to seek out someone you don't like and follow their online lives. If you don't want to have a real conversation, why waste the time creeping?

  7. Pamela Bennett
    July 22, 2017 at 7:16 pm

    I got off social media and am happy with my decision. FB seems to be for people who want to brag or gossip. Forget it! Who needs that?

  8. Ally
    July 2, 2017 at 6:53 pm

    I deleted my Facebook account about four years ago, I think. I was tire of the hatred I saw everywhere I went, I wasted so much time going on there, and all I did was play games or do pretty much nothing. I didn't talk to anybody. I didn't have to worry about losing touch with my friends because all the people I talked to all the time I text. Also, most of my friends on Facebook had hundreds of friends. Where as, i only had a maximum of fifty. They wouldn't notice i left. After I deleted my Facebook account, soon followed my pinterest account and Linkedin account for the same reasons. I do agree with you that it was hard at first because every time I went online when i had social media, I always went to my social media accounts and nothing else. I just went on because I felt like I had to. When I left, it didn't take long for me to get over " what am I going to do now" part. I am now more productive, and I feel renewed and happier. As for the jobs that require a social media presence to be hired, I never seen it make or break my ability to get a job, especially on Linkedin. I would always get jobs I was over qualified for or way out of my way to drive to. I then decided to put my linkedin account on private and then realized it defeats the purpose so I deleted it. Plus, I came to the realization, if a company requires me to have some kind of social media presence to get hired that is not a company I want to work for. Right now, I feel really blessed to work for a company that does not require a social media presence.

  9. Stone Forest
    June 29, 2017 at 11:55 pm

    I joined Facebook about 7 or 8 years ago, and when I logged back in, I had been inundated by 'be my friend' requests.

    I immediately deleted my account.

    My membership lasted about 20 minutes.

    I have never used 'social media' since.

    Get out and meet people.

  10. Bindu pavani Kola
    June 24, 2017 at 6:45 pm

    Yep I did it twice..!! After my intermediate (10+2) my father bought a tab for me ( I didn't asked for it) I just took it as its new I'm somewhat excited and grabbed it and through somehow I started WhatsApp..!! As they are Holiday's it went well.. And when I decided to do a long-term study program to clear my medical entrance test.. I wish if I thought of quitting it.. As it is new to ke I didn't find any problem.. But when.. The coaching came to a half l.. due to Frns and everything.. I started addicted to it.. I'm a kind of loving the Frnship one so.. If there are Frns nothing cones to my mind.. Then.. even my entrance exam.. After that exam.. I realized my Frns are not as caring for me as I thought they are and I care for them.. And i didnt clear it to the rank Ii need to become a doctor.. After all the hangover ( hell..!!) I decided to quit it and did it. Then I joined a doctorate degree with the rank what I got in long-term and I didn't went back even knowing that all my classmates are in a "so called " cool WhatsApp group..!! And then at mid of the course they started uploading all the records and info regarding college and classes in it.. Then I needed to go to WhatsApp again.. Ok its going on.. And again I had entered that vicious circle.. Then I got mad and talked with my bro.. He encouraged me saying that.. U r bold enough to control you to stop going WhatsApp without deleting it.. It worked for a while..!! But.. Again.. I'm not happy for what's going on.. And then the end of the first year and we are heading the final board.. So.. Now.. I got vexed and again uninstalled it for the second tym..!!( 2016 - june) Yeah.. Everyone asked me when are you coming back.. ..?? I just replied.. Next year or may be not at all..!! To be Frank I don't wanna go back..!! If needed I'll use my mother's account for important info and ask my frnd to forward important info in our class WhatsApp group to my mom's mobile.. Now I'm about to complete my first year final board..!!
    That's my story.. It might be lengthy.. But I wanted to write it to say others "addiction free life is peaceful and productive"
    The page is good.. ( remembered me while reading ) ^-^
    Have a good tym all of u.. And congratulations all d bst for all who are thinking of quitting.. And quitting addiction to social network..!!

  11. Benjamin
    May 24, 2017 at 11:25 am

    I left social media in 2010. Facebook had become little more than a platform for a popularity contest within my ring of relatives, creating drama and strife that I would rather miss. I am a Gen-Xer, but prefer to interact with people live, or not at all (with the exception of email). Ironically my stance on social interaction has left me socially isolated, even at church as I am not part of the masses of social media users......I am considered to be anti-social.

    • Matthew
      May 24, 2017 at 6:23 pm

      I think many of us have experienced the same feeling of isolation. While others see it as being self-imposed, I refuse to believe that social media is truly the magic glue that makes a community. Interestingly, I have stayed on Facebook for a while because my yoga teacher training group used a Facebook Group as a means to communicate. One person in our training group was not on Facebook, and we had to make certain that we included her by email. I knowingly allowed my involvement in the training to keep me on Facebook, but now I have no real excuse for holding on.

  12. Simon
    May 24, 2017 at 6:30 am

    When friends reunited was around i was quite happy with that platform but it had its problems i admit .
    Now the platforms seem to be used by the worst kind of people that should never have a voice online , by that i mean abusers ,fanatics and bully's.
    But i think it all comes down to money now so the platforms cant be shut down only regulated.
    I only have a google account for email but i am slowly changing back to an email address I've had for years one which has no sting in the tail .
    The day i finally deleted my Facebook account was the second best day of my life and still do not regret it one bit , i have a phone to chat if i need to or catch up

    • Dee
      June 3, 2017 at 4:48 pm

      That's my thoughts exactly . I'm a Gen-X person and I feel the same way. I did just fine without phones and technology . I feel social media takes away true human interaction in all aspects whether it's family interaction when your going out or getting in contact with an old friend. People forget that we do have phone to call and text to communicate and emails. I think people put way too much info on social media then they should, which causes another to feel like their life is not as good. Don't get me wrong , it's good in finding people and making that initial contact and exchanging numbers, but to use it beyond that is what gets you in the danger zone. I'm so glad I deactivated and got more involved in life. It's so surprising how amazing it is, but you'll see others shy away from you if your not on social media as if there is something wrong with you. Maybe it's because they don't have access to your life.Knowing it's them that has the social media disorder.

  13. Matthew
    May 23, 2017 at 6:42 pm

    Nice article. I've taken my blog offline, but several year ago I wrote about taking a 30-day hiatus from social media. That was followed a few months later with a blog about my decision to completely walk away from social media -- deleting all accounts. After about a year, I came back. I took another extended absence from social media and came back to it last summer.

    Like so many others have commented, I found social media to be a time suck. You don't realize how much you, often mindlessly, open the app or site. I recently completed a yoga teacher training program, and we spent a considerable amount of time on meditation and mindfulness. It became much more clear to me that the desire to depart social media apps was growing. In the past, I felt like I've been pretty deliberate about my decision to go offline, so to speak, but there probably was a fair amount of impulsiveness. Why not just pop into the sites every once and a while? I wrote about this in my blog piece, and it rang even more true when I sat with it for a while. I don't blame Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc. for being what they are; nor do I disparage those who use the services. Though I, admittedly, have become increasingly annoyed with friends and even strangers who are constantly on their phones when out and about. Do you really need to check-in and Facebook everything...everywhere? I love photography, but even I am starting to question why I am taking pictures of my food to share on Instagram.

    I read a great article on Medium, by TimeDorks, about creating a distraction free smartphone. The author called social media apps, along with many others, "Infinity Apps" because the pull-to-refresh provided an infinite or endless amount of distractions. I followed their distraction-free setup for the most part, but did keep Instagram on my phone. The funny thing is that I would keep Facebook and Twitter open in browser tabs on my computer. So what difference does it make if the app isn't on my phone if I'm in the site on my desktop, laptop, or phone browser.

    I, too, struggled with the joking, concern, and even contempt, for leaving social media. My closest friends know me well enough that the notion of leaving social media has almost become a laughing matter. Perhaps it's funny to them because I've left social media and then come back -- even if a year later. They have even seen me go from smartphone to basic flip phone and back.

    Fortunately, my decisions and actions are not held hostage by concern of what others think. I have, once again, reached the feeling that my time and mental free space is too valuable. I am losing sleep about what I might miss if I don't have social media accounts. I read the paper. I read books. I watch television. I ride my bike. I do yoga. I write people letters and cards. I know how to hold a conversation in person. You know...all the things we did before social media, smartphones, email, etc.

    To each his/her own, but I think the time has come to finally give social media the heave-ho. As has been said, you can always come back. My experience is that the same people will be right there if/when you get back.

    • Athera
      September 14, 2017 at 7:10 pm

      Hi Matthew,

      I can relate very well. I love photography and that's actually the prime purpose of my instagram. But I realized that it kept me feel the need to take the best photo, perfect cut and piece of my every vacations and road trips. It was fun when friends complementing and all in awe, the problem was I am the one who are not in the moment, and felt overwhelmed by other accounts who have even more perfect pics! Well, social media is stream of informations and plays in there. I quit, and never felt more liberated from the constant competition that I signed up myself in

  14. Lee
    May 18, 2017 at 4:34 am

    I realized Social Media was for me rather quickly...

    1. I'd always delete Facebook posts I made days after making them, for "privacy reasons."

    2. I had my account completely locked down, including hidden away from all search (back when Facebook allowed you to not show up in even their own site's search listing).

    3. Everytime someone tried to Tag me in a Photo, I'd either deny it, or if it was previously tagged I would report it and get it removed - for privacy reasons.

    4. There is something cringie about masses of random people I (in many cases only) "knew of" sending me friend requests. Friends of friends that I hadn't even heard of. People from the military that I couldn't care less to reconnect with (and likely put in much work to forget). People from High School.

    5. Having people shift all of their communications with you onto Facebook is extremely annoying. Better have those apps installed, and signed in... They stop texting you... They use Facebook Messenger. They don't email you about plans... They use Facebook Events. Pictures and everything go to Facebook.

    In many cases, things are much better off Pre-Facebook than Post-Facebook, but it's extremely hard to get people to "undo" that change when you leave Facebook...

    So yea, you end up being even MORE out of the loop than you were BEFORE YOU JOINED FACEBOOK, because people just expect you to be there.

    I think being a bit of an introvert actually makes it worse. The constant barrage of social media is exhausting. It's like you can never truly get away from these people, because you basically have to have some sort of device on you [for often legitimate reasons] all the time.

    Lastly, given the current digital climate (in terms of security), I just don't see a point in keeping any accounts open that I don't need. I only need 2 Email Addresses (Apple ID + iCloud), my Bank Account, and other Necessities (Health Insurance Company, etc.). I'm not going to blow up the attack surface for hackers, phishers, etc. by keeping all of these accounts open. Digital safety is a thing...

  15. Lexis
    April 18, 2017 at 10:47 am

    I quit social media last year for my new years resolution. I have not regretted my decision.

    • Rishav
      July 10, 2017 at 9:35 pm

      I am a social Media Junkie but after reading all the comments I feel i must exit social media and concentrate on my career and ambitions. Thanks

  16. Lori
    April 11, 2017 at 3:18 pm

    I quit social media at the beginning of this year – didn’t delete my accounts, just stopped using them – and haven’t regretted my decision. Like you, I didn’t have a monumental reason for doing so. I’ve always found social media fatiguing in many ways, so it just didn’t make sense to keep using something I didn’t enjoy. I am a somewhat private person, so I wasn’t a frequent poster on Facebook and I never really took a liking to Twitter or Instagram. The only social media site that I like and still use is Pinterest, because I’m a crafter and DIYer who likes to see the ideas and creations of others. There is also something about Pinterest that is friendlier – no high call for commentary, reaction or mean-spirited criticism. It’s been interesting to hear reactions to my decision, but the reactions haven’t bothered me. I did almost miss a couple of events and some potential business, because in all three cases, the people reached out via Facebook. In each case, when the people didn’t hear from me via Facebook (I didn’t make a mass announcement about my departure – just stopped engaging), they found me through other means (text, phone, e-mail). Still, no regrets. I have read all the information out there that says I can’t grow my business without a social media presence, so I struggle a tiny bit with my decision from that standpoint. However, as I think more deeply about it, I’m just not convinced that it’s a good idea for me to attempt to build relationships through social media for my business when I don’t like doing it for personal relationships. And I’m not convinced that a half a million followers or even a mere 10,000 likes translates into more revenue. I could be wrong, but I’m at peace.

    • Ralph Nyadzi
      May 7, 2017 at 11:19 am

      True, Lori. Those likes etc amount to almost nothing in the real world.Moreover, the whole social media experience can be time - wasting and exhausting. Planning to suspend my social media activities so I can return to the real world, away from fantasy and pretense to focus more on the things that truly matter to me in the real world. That's how come I found my way here.

  17. Barbara Brearley
    April 9, 2017 at 8:59 pm

    I quit Facebook 6 months ago and have not gone back. I had a serious accident and very few of my Facebook "friends" cared. I became depressed by this and so I felt I should just go off. I care more about my family than certain friends that brag and use Facebook to build up their self esteem. Also, I was discouraged by all of the hateful posts and comments about so many things. The fact that I feel so much more at peace and happier doing my artwork instead of staring at Facebook sealed the deal.

    • Akshata Shanbhag
      April 14, 2017 at 11:56 am

      Peace and happiness sounds like a good deal :)

  18. B-Fay9
    March 29, 2017 at 7:13 pm

    I quit Facebook about 6 months ago and haven't gone back. I don't miss it at all and it makes me sick to my stomach even thinking about going back. Deleted IG for second time last night. I miss casual and intelligent conversation. I began to see that social media was literally just an attention grab and while some harmless fun is great, it was overall pointless and contrary to mental development. People place so much stock on likes and comments it just seemed mind boggling to me. People judge others based on who has more attention on Social Media and I came to the conclusion that this was a drag on personal progression as education, experiences, accomplishments, and even money. It is artificial confidence that I can see is a real issue. It is almost as if two people go into a job interview, one is the perfect candidate and the other is nowhere even moderately close to qualified. When asked by the manager, "Why should I hire you over the other guy who is much more educated and has much more experience?," the unqualified yet social media popular candidate would say "because I have way more likes on IG. That guy gets like 10 max. I get like 150 easy. He is a loser." This is a scenario that represents how silly it is, but the reality is that while this scenario is unlikely, it does accurately represent how people view each other based on what they value in each other. Also, I got tired of seeing people I used to respect make fools of themselves and women I used to put hold in high regard show themselves to be, for lack of a more appropriate term, hoes, and it all just became increasingly negative. Attention is the new root of all evil. NOT money

    • Hilton
      April 9, 2017 at 3:15 pm

      Valid points in there that I can definitely relate to.

    • Ralph Nyadzi
      May 7, 2017 at 11:26 am

      You've just reaffirmed all my nagging concerns for considering to at least suspend my social media activities for a while. Who know, I may not return in the foreseeable future. Can't say never, though. Many thanks.

  19. Janet
    March 13, 2017 at 3:21 am

    I just deleted all social media today! Facebook, snapchat, instagram and twitter. I feel so relieved honestly. Not comparing my life to others and focusing on myself and what makes me happy! Best decision I've made in a long time!!

    • Jess
      March 18, 2017 at 2:11 am

      Good for you!!

    • Akshata Shanbhag
      March 18, 2017 at 5:46 pm

      Glad to hear you're happy with the decision, Janet!

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  21. Steve
    February 19, 2017 at 9:04 pm

    I've deactivated my FB account several times, only to go back, more out of convenience in accessing other sites/apps/games/etc than bc I want to keep up to date. At this point, of the 200-something "friends" I have, I am only following about 50, and over half of those aren't even active on the site. I'm sure the numbers are pretty equal coming back, as well. The bottom line is that there is little gained from FB outside of keeping in touch with people I used to work with, go to school with, or be friends with years ago. There's something about letting old relationships die naturally that feels more genuine to me than the perpetuation of a relationship that exists solely on social media.

    As for Twitter, it's nothing more than angry people yelling at other angry people. Everyone is so deeply involved in their own identity politics that you can't get much out of it at all. It's either a) sites you agree with or b) sites you hate. What kind of a waste of one's time is that? That level of hatred and echo chamber reinforcement is seriously unhealthy.

    As of today, I'm checking out. I can find the news I want on other sites and the rest of it - no thank you.

    Thanks for a great article to push me over that edge. :)

    • Akshata Shanbhag
      March 18, 2017 at 5:55 pm

      Glad to hear you found the article useful, Steve. I hope the no-Facebook decision is working out well for you. Sites where you have control over what you see are definitely much less stressful.

    • Ashley
      May 30, 2017 at 10:40 pm

      I like what you said about letting old relationships die naturally. This has been a big struggle for me lately and I just deleted all my social media in hopes of letting some old connections finally fizzle out. It's just unnatural to know so much about everyone all the time.

      • Ree
        July 6, 2017 at 7:10 am

        I couldn't agree more. A constant stream of thoughts and videos. Its overwhelming. The impulsive thoughts and opinions (which I can no longer tell the difference between that and complaining) they've become the same.

        I just started a 30 day social media detox, inspired by a blog I read after my realization that Facebook does nothing to improve my life, and actually does the opposite; it brings me down. (Not all of the time, but there are the occasional negative Nancy's who are ready to light the world on fire with some snazzy one liner post.

        Anyway, I'm ready to get back to life. To slow it down and to really appreciate the pace. Sometimes it's nice to slow things down.

  22. Gina
    February 19, 2017 at 8:38 am

    I have not been on social media for over 2 years now. My main reason for deleting all social media accounts was that I felt it was a fake connection to people who claimed to be close friends. Deep down I questioned how could you be when I barely see you, you barely know me. People are just skimming the surface on social media.. I found it shallow.
    What I did expect when I deleted the accounts was more quality time with my children which I got, more time for hobbies which I got and peace and quiet which I got and loved being an introvert. I no longer felt frustrated that I was looking at photos of what people were eating for meals and wondering why it had been posted in the first place.
    BUT... WHAT I DIDNT EXPECT
    I completely lost all of my friends, except my sister and one other whom I don't hear from a lot.
    I have literally dropped off the face of the Earth, out of sight out of mind.
    Although I'm not surprised it still saddens me.
    Just to add a bit of humour to what I'm writing.
    I had a 'friend' who hounded me on FB to go to her baby shower. It wasn't something I really had time for that weekend but I made the effort to go. I then quit social media not long after.
    Apparently she had her baby... it's nearly two years old but she didn't bother to let me know. When I asked another friend about it she says 'oh she posted it on FB'
    Yes.. my point exactly. Two evils in this world money and social media :)

    • Akshata Shanbhag
      March 18, 2017 at 5:49 pm

      Losing friends to social media sucks, Gina. Has there been any occasion to meet those friends in person after you quit?

      • Gina
        March 18, 2017 at 9:40 pm

        Hi Akshata,
        Occasionally but because I'm out there of the loop and im quite an introvert anyhow the connection is lost. Or they almost think they're a victim of neglect because I'm not on there to keep in touch lol
        it's odd, social media seems to be the main form of communication.
        Family I still see a little.
        Regards
        Gina

      • Gina
        March 18, 2017 at 9:41 pm

        But the baby shower friend! No haven't heard from her lol

        • Akshata Shanbhag
          March 19, 2017 at 1:57 pm

          Hahaha...That would have been a surprise :)

          Out of the loop? As a fellow introvert, I have been there, although once I am, I occasionally want back in. It's bittersweet.

  23. Star
    February 16, 2017 at 5:34 pm

    I have always been on social media. It started with Myspace, AOL, then lead to Facebook, Instagram, etc.... I have met people through social media that became very close to me. Social media can be a way to promote yourself (in a good way or bad way). There are a lot of benefits to having social media....BUT....at this point in my life I can see myself either becoming more narcissistic or getting back to the things I used to love. I deleted ALL my social media accounts today. It got me thinking, what things would I do different on a daily basis if I wasn't checking my social media accounts or posting on them? Would I put in as much effort to look good? Would I start playing music again? Would I pick up any new hobbies?
    It's not going to be easy. I guess I may be a little afraid of losing friends/popularity but I want to push myself to meet people in real life. I'm curious to see how this will effect my life in a month from now. In the meantime, I'm going to have to distract myself somehow so it's time for me to do some blogging and podcasting. Wish me luck!

    • Akshata Shanbhag
      March 18, 2017 at 5:47 pm

      It's been a month since you quit social media. I hope that has worked out well for you!

  24. Sherry
    February 7, 2017 at 6:53 pm

    I am on day 3 of no social media ever again. I am currently writing a temporary Blog to help other people leave social media.

    Fakebook is a brainwashing pile of crap full of fake cheesy selfies and hate and fake news.

    I have had it with trolls, catfishing, people trying to constantly sell me shit and borrow money.
    People wasting money on business adds and it does zero for their business.
    Fake and negative news dumping all over the feed.
    I unfollowed over 50 people recently and realized.."What in the heck am i doing"??? It is time to just cut the crap and get out of here.

    So.. I did. The End.

    • Tom
      February 10, 2017 at 10:23 pm

      good job!

    • Lori
      February 15, 2017 at 3:39 pm

      How do I find your blog?

    • Gina
      February 19, 2017 at 8:41 am

      I'm hearin ya :)

    • Jess
      March 18, 2017 at 2:15 am

      May I ask what name of your blog is? I'm ready to quit FB and Instagram but need a little push in the right direction!!

  25. John
    January 28, 2017 at 5:27 pm

    I've temporarily given up Facebook 3 times. The first two were for Lent, the last time was during the last few months of the 2016 presidential election. I came back a few weeks after the elections was over.
    Each time I deactivated the account to it's weird at first because I get so used to frequently, mindlessly really, scrolling through Facebook. Each time I come back I think I really didn't miss a lot, yet I still get sicked back into scrolling and scrolling.
    The content doesn't seem worth the distraction anymore compared to other things I could be doing.
    The last time I took a break from Facebook I discovered Quora, which I really enjoyed. Though, now I'm used to scrolling through Facebook again I don't visit Quora as much even though it's been more informative and enjoyable than Facebook currently is. Silly huh?!
    I'm seriously considering totally breaking from social media, which is what brought me to this article.

    Great points about being willing to jump back in if it's for a good practical purpose.

    • Akshata Shanbhag
      January 29, 2017 at 6:48 am

      I have quit and rejoined Facebook a few times, too. It was frightening how quickly I got sucked back into the endless timeline scrolling vortex :D

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  27. Dan
    January 14, 2017 at 8:15 pm

    Freedom. This is purely the reason I've stopped using social media sites, give it a rest and continue with my life, social media became an unhealthy drug in my life.

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  29. Belen Deffell
    January 6, 2017 at 4:52 pm

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  30. Lisa Dyck
    January 2, 2017 at 11:17 pm

    I decided to take a break for 1 month from all social media. I've received several invitations for real time lunch or coffee dates. A few people have messaged me stating they were feeling the same as myself with one friend also deactivating her Facebook account. Social media was consuming too much of my time and thoughts. I feel an immediate release and don't find myself missing it. It was suppose to be a connector but I found it to be an isolating form of prison. Endless selfies were getting to me and people's self-absorbed lives were depressing. I'm not sure if I will stay off indefinitely but I'm looking forward to the vacation.

    • Akshata Shanbhag
      March 18, 2017 at 5:57 pm

      I'm curious to know how your social media vacation turned out, Lisa :) If you didn't miss social media all that much to begin with, I imagine you haven't given much thought to it.

  31. Bob
    December 31, 2016 at 9:14 pm

    Think about that time when men were navigating the open seas without a GPS, bottled water or underarmor t-shirts. It happened not so long ago. Where did men post about these adventures? They didn't. They wrote books about them. Get over yourself. Nobody cares about that rad street food stand you found in Seoul on vacation in 2012 (or your cool new bike). Now, grab your iced latte and settle in for some free Starbucks-wifi-facebook cat video time. Find your life. It's not in your news feed, I promise.

  32. Epko
    December 18, 2016 at 6:26 pm

    I deleted all social media accounts and completely removed myself from the internet. I know what was there will always be found somewhere on the internet and I do not care about that. After being extremely active on Facebook since 2009 (4-10 posts daily?? maybe more?), I stopped posting on April 30, 2016, I logged off Facebook and closed my eBay store. Honestly I was sick of the political crap from both sides. I stayed offline completely all summer. I know that I had 10 messages in my inbox and 900 friends although when I closed the account, I did not check any messages. Maybe they were asking if I was okay, maybe they wanted to return that borrowed kayak paddle or perhaps they were inviting me to Florida for New Years. Not one person in my immediate life said a word about anything. It really was like a big white elephant sitting in the corner of a room. Apparently, several people asked right on my Facebook page if I was okay (I did see this when I closed the account) but no one who sees me in person or knows the other ways to contact me, ever said a single word. Not about my absence in Facebook nor about people wondering if I was okay. This includes my wife of nearly 30 years, my dad who I see several times per week or an older son and his wife that I also see several times weekly(all are very active on Facebook). I closed the account for good on October 23rd, 2016 and only then (3 weeks later) did my youngest son ask me in a text about Facebook and after almost 2 months of being "offline", I did have a cousin also figure out a way to get my phone number and asked about Facebook. Both of them started the conversations with something else slipping in their questions about Facebook. I stuck to the original topic with both completely ignoring the Facebook questions. At one time, I may have entertained people with an explanation but now I have a canned answer, not that I expect anyone to ask. "The topic is not open for discussion."
    I do not intend to save, change or destroy the world and I do not care if anyone remembers me or not.

    I use some of my free time for a couple small hobby things I enjoy but most of my free time now is devoted to the study of the Cosmos.

    • Akshata Shanbhag
      March 18, 2017 at 5:59 pm

      Ignoring those questions is definitely an effective way to go about it :)

  33. Gab
    November 23, 2016 at 5:55 am

    I started by deleting SnapChat as it was consuming my life. Then on to IG because I feel most people should have no business in being part of my current success- especially if they don't wish me well. As well as to cure me from a bit of a stalking habit. (Last reason prob motivated me the most.)

    I have always deactivated FB and I really don't use it as a social platform anymore as the demographics have changed over the years.

    I hope to stay on this health kick for a while and detox myself from things that don't really add value to my life and delays my personal growth.

    I've noticed myself reaching for my phone, itching to open a social media app. But I know that's just the force of habit.

    I would love to get some indications of the newsletters you mention above.

    Thanks for sharing your story!

    • Akshata Shanbhag
      November 28, 2016 at 1:29 pm

      Honestly I can't recall which newsletters I was subscribed to, because once I stopped reading most of them to cut down on consuming information, they no longer seemed important. I do remember waiting expectantly for updates from Run Wild Creative and Cal Newport's blog.

  34. Evo
    November 16, 2016 at 7:27 pm

    I foresaw that having a facebook or twitter or even after my employers begged me a "Google" account that it was like letting the fox have the keys to the city. No I'm very very happy in my decisions to only be on game chats and laugh as everyone else gets utterly controlled. I have never had an issue actually from it.

  35. Jenna
    November 15, 2016 at 4:43 am

    I loved social media when I first came in contact with it starting with MySpace after a friend suggested it. I've lived all over the world so I got back in touch with many friends that I would have never been able to reach otherwise. I also met new friends via social media and even met a bf that I was with for 6 years. I've grown tired of it over the last several years and deleted twitter and LinkedIn, as neither served a real purpose for me. Finally, several months ago I deactivated FB and recently I deactivated Instagram, now feeling a sense of freedom not being a prisoner to social media. If someone can't keep in touch with me the good old fashioned way then they are not worth keeping in touch with. I don't have any issues finding a job...I've never found a job through social media, not even when I was on LinkedIn. I send my resume into jobs that advertise online, I get calls, I go to interviews. You don't need social media to do that. Unlike the author though, I do still have Google+ so I can log into my YouTube account and save music vids I like and I use it to make comments on news articles and to write reviews on businesses. But I don't use it to socialize as I have no inner circle, or whatever they call it. It does irritate me when some news sources require you have FB in order to comment...in that case I just bite my tongue.

  36. CJ
    November 4, 2016 at 6:52 pm

    I'm a Senior in high school, and I have never had any social media accounts, other then email. It has really impacted me, as I can't share who I am with many people in my class. A lot of them ask, with incredulity, why I don't have Facebook, or Twitter, or Instagram, and I always feel pressured by my lack of social networking. I would like to stay away from social media as much as possible, but I'm afraid that my future and career looks grim without it. Since I am the next generation, it feels as if I am the only one who isn't "in the loop." Got any advice?

    • Akshata Shanbhag
      November 5, 2016 at 3:06 am

      Hey CJ,
      If you approach social media as part of a career strategy, maybe you will feel less averse to it. That's the case for me anyway.

      I would suggest signing up for a single social media account of your choice whenever you feel ready and choose your interactions carefully. Twitter is a great option, because the focus is on strangers whose work you're interested in (unlike Facebook, where the focus is on friends and family). Follow 10-15 people/accounts (or fewer) to begin with and see how it works out for you. Unsubscribe from email notifications, unfollow (or mute) people who tweet stuff that isn't valuable to you.

      I signed up for Facebook again recently, because there are a couple of writer groups I'm interested in. I'm treating this as a work account. I haven't added any friends/family, because I prefer keeping in touch with them offline. I would love to keep in touch with my colleagues via FB, because I have no offline way to get to know them better. After being off Facebook for three years, I'm now able treat it as "just another website" instead of a networking site I have to check every minute of the day.

      Please feel free to email me at akshata@makeuseof.com to discuss this further. Maybe I can help you find an approach that works for you.

    • Jenna
      November 15, 2016 at 4:52 am

      My boys are both in high school and neither one is on the big social media sources. The only thing they do is online gaming and my youngest has a YouTube channel but he hasn't uploaded anything in awhile. I haven't heard from either of them that they get pressured from friends to be on social media. They text and video chat a good deal but are both happy to not be in the FB or twitter loop. As far as jobs go I don't see how social media would help your job prospects in most fields. I've never had a problem getting a job and never had an employer ask about my social media status. If you feel that strongly about not having a social page then more power to you, don't do it if you feel it's not right for you.

  37. Yass
    November 2, 2016 at 2:54 am

    This year, I deactivated my twitter and snapchat, so i left with facebook and instagram. Deactivating twitter and snapchat was easy to do, i never look back since then. But what i find the hardest to do is to leave facebook and instagram. I did deactivated my instagram account but i always find myself logging in again and yet i hate it. I didn't really login on facebook as much so it didn't really matter but I find it soo hard to delete my instagram account. So what exactly would you suggest me to do?

    • Akshata Shanbhag
      November 2, 2016 at 4:09 am

      If you're getting something out of Instagram, there's no reason to give it up :) This doesn't have to be an exercise in frustration!

  38. Sarah
    October 25, 2016 at 5:24 pm

    Ive decided to not let social media takes control of me, my life and my self esteem issues any further recently. So i deactivate my twitter and snapchat account. Im still on facebook because im doing business online but i only manage our facebook pages account, so i rarely go on facebook and scrolling the newsfeed. The most is probably once a day to make sure i was updated with news etc. I still do have an instagram account but i stopped uploading photos and i only log in when i feel like it which is very rarely. I have family and friends that i need to be in touch with on instagram but i dont have the app on my phone, same goes to facebook. So i would need to go on browser to check those accounts and tbh, i dont feel addicted to it at all. Im using those social media only when i have a purpose. Same goes to tumblr, i have an account because i like the photos there and sometimes its easier to search some cool photos when i do have an account, and still i only log in when i feel like it which is even barely once a month thing. So i guess its a good thing to use social media in moderate amount in our daily life, it keeps you focus in doing what is more necessary.

  39. HD
    October 15, 2016 at 10:51 am

    Hey, do you reckon i'm missing out on anything by not being on social media? I've never used any of these sites, my ex had made an account for me on facebook and instagram but I never really uploaded anything...

    I have my own business so I wanted to know if i'm missing out on any business opportunities by not having a personal presence on the internet?

    • Akshata Shanbhag
      October 16, 2016 at 6:01 am

      Harshal, many would say that you are missing out. I would say it depends on the kind of business you're running, the opportunities you're looking for, and so on.

      Even if you don't have a social media presence, having a dedicated website helps, because it gives you some control over how people perceive your business. Having said that, I do know people with zero/low-key online presence who are doing pretty well for themselves.

      If you feel inclined to get on social media to further your business, but don't have the time/resources to monitor and update your online presence regularly, it might be better to not have one or leave it till you're ready. I feel a missing online presence is better than an abandoned/outdated one.

  40. Emma
    October 11, 2016 at 7:05 pm

    I have never had a twitter account. I deleted my facebook account 3 years ago and never looked back. I still have Instagram and snapchat, but i follow only a few people. But im not a big poster. My husband doesnt have any social media.

    Sure, we miss out on events. But all of my friends are at least 45 minutes away from our homestead. And with 3 dogs, a cat, 4 chickens and a two year old, i dont have time to do much anyways.

    I share fun pictures and videos with friends via text. So i dont feel left out. Scrolling thru my news feed, i would read too much into everything. Im a sensitive person and my anxiety just couldnt handle it.

    Since quitting, my life is less stressed. Im happy with only 3 close friends and my family to talk to. I cant handle more than 20 relationships at a time without freaking out.

    I did have to make a FB account for my daughter's preschool so i could get school alerts. But its completely blank.

    • Jess
      March 18, 2017 at 2:25 am

      Thanks for you post, I can totally relate! I find myself so emotionally drained after viewing a dozen or so posts, which actually furthers my frustration because I feel like a failure for being a poor user of social media! Yet, there are so many more important things I need to put my energy towards?, and worrying about social media should not even be near that list!

  41. Benjamin Roe
    October 11, 2016 at 5:32 am

    I just deleted my Facebook (my only social media account). I got messages telling me that it's only temporary, that I shouldn't isolate myself, but mostly very supportive responses outside of that. It was all the negativity and overwhelming unhappiness and drama that pulled me away. I gave everyone 12 hrs to jot down my contact info. I made sure I repeated the posting several times to give fair warning. Then at midnight, poof, no more social media. I'm experiencing some anxiety and regret, but I know that those who really care about me will keep in touch. All the others I probably didn't need in my life anyway. For those who didn't see the multiple posts and ten minute warning, you'll have to find me.

    • Jess
      March 18, 2017 at 2:26 am

      Bravo!

  42. Bianca - 18
    October 7, 2016 at 4:59 pm

    I've actually been off of social media completely for almost a year now. I do have a quiet phone, but I've noticed that people talk differently if they are on social media more, which keeps me from getting another one. Too much of the illiteracy.

  43. MinaHayes
    September 14, 2016 at 8:53 pm

    I gave up facebook in 2012 and never really looked back. I was literally becoming ill scrolling thru my newsfeed and seeing a bunch of narcissist, pretentious fakery from majority of my 350 "friends". Here's what I dont miss;
    -The one girl who always had a headache and always jokingly griping about her kids and husband so everyone would think she has the perfect life..although he was cheating on her with all of their grade school friends...
    -The guy that posts just for likes. Always something mind boggling, supposed inspiration or a call for attention by posting a long RIP tribute to his "homie" that was killed 5 years ago..again posting for likes, not because he really misses his buddy.
    -The lady that felt the need to post her entire day and life from start to finish. She'd post about waking up, declaring that the day is beautiful and she's ready for it. She'd tag every single place she went for the day, posting random selfies with "inspirational words" about any and everything, making it appear that life was great. Problem was, I knew her in real life and knew her life was nowhere near rosey.
    -The random old "friends" from the past that would inbox me wanting to reconnect as if they forgot that they're already in the right place..the past.

    I may not know how much fun it appeared the parties were, but I don't miss being dragged into everyones circus without buying a ticket.

    • Akshata Shanbhag
      September 21, 2016 at 5:32 am

      That must have been such a relief, Mina :) I guess everyone has some variation of those types of "friends" on their timeline. They made an appearance in one of our posts as well.

  44. Soren
    September 9, 2016 at 1:23 pm

    I used to be very active on social media, particularly FB, Twitter & Instagram. Although i did meet some nice people on those sites, i also found them to be far more of a distraction than anything else. I dare say i even became boring, due to spending more time inside my house & less time outside doing interesting & exciting things. For the first few weeks, i was tempted to go back, but that waned when i discovered a couple of new hobbies that excite me far more than watching a feed. It may be a dramatic comparison but i liken it to when i gave up alcohol & discovered my weekends were way more fun with a hangover. Social media has it's use and it's good for those that use it sparingly, but for me, i sleep far more peacefully & enjoy my days more without it.

  45. Philippe
    September 6, 2016 at 9:38 am

    I deleted all my social media ( facebook, twitter, instagram) about 3 years ago, since i'm done with all of this useless distraction. People these days have the illusion that even before going to sleep or just after waking up, they need to know whats going on at the other side of the world. Stressing your brain for 1 hour for something that has no influence at all to your life. People should live more consciously and focus on their own life/tasks. Productivity has proven to be going down since the smartphone has been introduced. No wonder, since many (social media) apps act as a slotmachine; addicting. Focus on your own life and not on the virtual one in your pocket! A digital burnout is just around the corner.

  46. Michele
    September 1, 2016 at 3:01 am

    I closed all my sn accounts six months ago because i was feeling addicted to them. Yesterday my nine years old son told me that i should have tried to get back at least to instagram so i download the app, created an account, upload a cool profile pic and before posting a single photo i felt sick and bored.

  47. Kristina Rio
    August 30, 2016 at 3:32 am

    In June this year I decided to delete (or deactivate the ones that wouldn't allow me to delete) all my social media accounts. Included Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Tumblr, Pinterest and Snapchat. I'm not going to lie it was a tough decision however my main reasoning was that I was about to go on an overseas trip and to be frank I didn't want to feel the pressure of constantly posting statuses and pictures. I wanted to enjoy my holiday and just relax. Prior to my trip I also had a couple of weddings to attend to, and even though the weddings were beautiful and it wasn't about me I had grown insecure over the last year due to some weight gain and I didn't feel comfortable posting pictures of myself or being tagged in photos for the world to see. Actually, come to think of it insecurity was the main reasoning. I spent too much time scrolling through other people's lives and questioning myself, rather than doing the things I wish I could do. My Facebook usage from when I first set up my account to when I deleted it did drop dramatically. Before I would check-in at every place I went to. I tagged all the people I was with. I had photo albums of my life for everyone to see. The thing that changed me was that an ex of mine was using that very same tool to stalk me. That's when I realised I needed to be more cautious on what I was posting. I used Facebook less and less and soon enough it was just a tool to snoop into other people's lives. Now c'mon...you have to admit that's pretty unhealthy. I loved Instagram for the fact that I loved looking at motivational fitness pictures and quotes plus it also gave a small window to some celebrities. I alos love sharing experiences with other business likes cafes, resorts, adventure, etc so I enjoyed that promoting aspect of it.Instagram was harder to delete for me than Facebook which is why I will admit I created a new Instagram account. Instagram for me was my tool to connect to my favourite celebrities or celebrities and people alike that inspired me. I'm trying to keep my usage down but at time I have found I've just the last 3 hours scrolling. Oh well. I jumped on the Twitter and Snapchat bandwagons out of curiosity. I was fairly active on them for a while but it got too much for me to try keep up, and I ended up spending hours watching and reading everything before my day could actually start. I had to say goodbye because it ended up just being a digital gossip tool and when I did say goodbye a huge weight was lifted. Tumblr was just a tool for me to use to blog but then I realised I didn't have much to blog about so saying goodbye to that was no big deal. I have to say quitting and staying off most of the social media platforms has been great. I'm back on Instagram and Pinterest (Pinterest tends to flag some really good ideas). I feel like I can concentrate on me more and spend less time looking into other people's lives. For the ones closest to me they have my number, and for the ones that live overseas that I ACTUALLY keep in touch with I have other data messaging apps. Switching off and logging off is great :)

    • Akshata Shanbhag
      August 31, 2016 at 3:16 pm

      Thank you for sharing your story, Kristina :) I was quite active on FB, Twitter, etc. for about eight years before I quit. Now I can't imagine going back to them. I also prefer one-on-one conversations and messaging apps now...

  48. Cheryl Boston
    August 27, 2016 at 7:52 am

    I have just posted on FB that I am done with it. I said if anyone wants me they can contact me via email, skype or phone. I posted all contact details as well. I will leave FB up for a few weeks to give whomever wants those details a chance to take them, then I will kill FB for good. My reason? FB is the source of too much bad energy.

    • Akshata Shanbhag
      August 31, 2016 at 3:05 pm

      FB can make you think you're the only one having to deal with more bad days than good :)

    • Marc Gaspard
      September 16, 2016 at 2:31 pm

      I am out of social media for the past 5 months. Had more than 500 + connections. I did the same... posted my contact details and deleted my accounts after a while... none other than my close friends and relatives did contact me... you will not even feel a pinch of loss by doing this... instead you will find time to spend with your loved ones...

  49. BF
    August 19, 2016 at 5:54 am

    I have never had a facebook, twitter, instagram or any other social media account. Ever. For a long time (many years) the nature of my work forbade it and after I was again free to do so I was simply used to being without it. I must say (I mean this in a spirit of relief, not smug-ness) watching all of my friends and family and how much it affects, and often rules, their emotions, relationships, and lives in general I am certain that I have far less stress and a more enjoyable day-to-day experience of just "living" than they do. Everyone who knows me knows I dont do social media and they have my phone number and they use it. I have long and great conversations with my friends and family. I travel to visit people I havent seen in a while and enjoy seeing how they have changed or not since I saw them last. Friends come over to show me their latest purchase or project because they know I didnt see the "posts" and it results in more meaningful time together. When I go on vacation I dont feel anxiety -as I have seen others have- over not having service to check their news feed, I'm too busy enjoying my vacation. I get pictures -like real actual pictures- mailed to me from family that I can put up on the wall and they are usually accompanied by handwritten letters and even sometimes little trinkets or keepsakes. Maybe because I've never really been plugged in I dont know what I'm missing? But I'm a young man and have plenty of time to delve into all that stuff later if I choose. Until then, I am perfectly content and thankful when I see my friends freaking out about some ignorant post someone just made that simply must be dealt with, to go on living my life -most of it outdoors- and being 'present' in it (as the article puts it) instead of playing out my relationships in what amounts to virtual reality. Life is far too short to live it on a computer server in my humble opinion.

    • Akshata Shanbhag
      August 24, 2016 at 1:30 pm

      What an interesting story! That's the kind of life I'm aiming for. It's good that friends and family have been accepting of your decision to say no to social media. Not having had a social account ever has definitely worked in your favor :)

  50. VIG
    August 12, 2016 at 10:59 am

    I QUIT SOCIAL MEDIA MANY TIMES BUT NEVER SUCCEEDED I LOVE EDITING PHOTOS

  51. Skye
    August 10, 2016 at 11:50 pm

    Hey There!
    Regarding Social Media - Facebook is the only one I have used for years. I never really got into any of the others as much as I have as FB. But recently, I have gone through phases of being depressed from jealousy of others' lives thinking "Why can't that be me?" or "Why can't I be doing that?". As well as feeling drained from pointless arguments through posts and comments. Myself being guilty, I wondered what was happening to my good nature. I went from a nice, sweet, kind 16 year old girl to a jealous, insecure one. Which was the moment I realized: I have to quit Social Media.
    From the mindless scrolling through my News Feed to the silent judgement I had felt from friends and strangers alike with every Status Update I made. It just wasn't worth the anxiety, depressed phases, insecurity, etc. Not to mention how I noticed the changes in my behavior towards others and myself. I had become overly critical of every action I made inside and outside of Facebook. None of it, I feel, has left a good impact on me.
    So, I deactivated my current account, thinking all was well for about 7 days. Until the fear of not having Social Media would impact my employment hit my brain, I obsessed about re-making a Facebook or activating my old one. I eventually gave in and made a new one, mentally labeling it "Work Facebook". Though, it came back to me later knowing well enough it was on "Display" considering I had "quit" Social media. It just bothered me way too much.
    But, with school starting soon (I'm schooled online which is another reason why I wanted to quit Social Networking asap) and taking my chances with employment, I deactivated that account too and said goodbye to the old Social Network.
    Honestly, it has been rough. 1 week has gone by, I haven't been on once. But I have definitely improved in many ways. I am legitimately happy for others and their successes, I have more time to spend with family and gardening, I have much more energy to tackle tasks at the end of day, I can think much more clear making efficient and reasonable decisions, but most importantly made some time for Self-Improvement. And many more!
    Quite frankly, if you are even thinking about quitting, I highly suggest it. Even just for a week to a month. It makes a huge difference and gives you lots of free time! Either way, I don't regret quitting one bit and I would love to see more people thinking the same. :)

    • Akshata Shanbhag
      August 13, 2016 at 7:26 am

      Thank you for sharing your experience with using and quitting social media, Skye. Glad to hear it has all worked out well for you despite the initial hiccups :)

    • ME
      October 9, 2016 at 12:52 am

      I would love to hear more. Your post describes my situation to "t". But, I immediately get bored when I try to give it up.

  52. samantha
    August 8, 2016 at 7:42 pm

    I deleted ALL social media, Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. I have yet to regret it. Sure some thought I fell off the deep end but there is such a peace with not constantly being connected. I've been able to focus my energy on more productive things.

    • Skye
      August 10, 2016 at 11:59 pm

      I definitely agree with you there! In fact, I have made sure most of my actions or what I end up doing in my free time is productive. That wouldn't of happened if Social Media wasn't kicked out of the picture!

  53. AntisocialHermit
    August 1, 2016 at 4:10 pm

    I detest all social media. It's exclusively for mindless idiots.

    • Rebecca Henchey
      September 16, 2016 at 12:44 am

      Glad to know I'm not alone!

  54. Michael D
    July 20, 2016 at 2:52 pm

    I like that I can share this article on Facebook and other social media accounts; seems kind of ironic, haha.

    Joking aside, you've given me a lot to think about. :)

    • Akshata Shanbhag
      July 21, 2016 at 11:30 am

      Haha...glad to hear it :)

  55. Anon
    July 6, 2016 at 11:36 am

    I deleted my Facebook profile and all other social networking in 2009 when I found out about the death of one of my closest friends from the comments on her Facebook page. How can such a false environment be the place to communicate such a devastating thing. I am strongly against the way in which these websites are used for communication. It makes me sad we can't go back to the way it used to be when we'd pick up a home phone and call our friends and arrange to meet in person.

    • Akshata Shanbhag
      July 9, 2016 at 4:57 am

      That's awful. Unfortunately that's the way things are these days...

  56. Danielle
    May 30, 2016 at 2:49 am

    Hi! I have been Social Media free since April! I am loving it! I do have youtube cause I do like watching videos and I have found that I have more free space on my phone and I can play games and I have found several that dont constantly tell me to log in to facebook or twitter.

    • Danielle
      May 30, 2016 at 2:50 am

      Oh! I got tired of the drama of Social Media and that is why I decided to drop it.

      • I hate annoying people!
        June 9, 2016 at 3:55 pm

        What an annoying comment! It doesn't make any sense! You shouldn't have posted these two comments... People got rid of social media for a reason... They need they cannot stand other people like you!

        • Shut Up
          June 16, 2016 at 2:02 pm

          This type comment is why I left social networking. Why did you feel you needed to bash this person? Did you high five yourself after this?

        • Reality police
          January 15, 2017 at 1:57 am

          You are the prime example of the type of person who should never have a social media account. What are you 13 years old? Grown ups are trying to have a conversation here! "I hate annoying people" laughable, but mostly, pififul.

  57. Anti-social INFJ photog
    May 21, 2016 at 4:21 am

    People are annoying on social media nowadays, that's why I've deleted it last month (April 2016)! I hate the currents trends, gossips, b*tches and memes that I usually see on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram! Stop it! It's so annoying, but most people still keep on doing it! I'm actually happy without my social media because I can focus on the things that I do on real life like playing video games, reading, writing, going outside alone, etc. Social media wasn't this annoying on the past years when I was a teenager around the early 2000's and below. I hate those people that constantly post memes, selfies and being a fake b*tch! It's really a bad influence! I only have my Google+, but I don't post anything there and it's just linked to my G-mail account for job hunting and e-mailing purposes only. I don't like comparing myself to other people, because I know I'll get upset if I see their photos when they are much happier than me (better friends, money, etc.)... Without social media, I will not see them anymore and those people who doesn't like me will not see me too and it's better that way... I'm a misanthrope and somewhat misogynist (but I like non b*tchy type of girls), so my advice to those who doesn't like memes, celebrities and annoying posts on social media, to get rid of it so you can focus on yourself without comparing to other people... Just be who you are... :| -anti-social INFJ photographer / writer

    • MinaHayes
      September 14, 2016 at 9:04 pm

      You are soooo right!! I deleted my social media 4 years ago for the same reasons. I was tired of all the trends and fakeness...I don't miss it, not one bit. I'm too busy enjoying my real life full of family, my bff (I only have one cuz that's all I need), spirituality, my career, routines, traveling, reading, watching my favorite sitcoms, cannibis and wine! I managed to finally fall in love with myself and it feels great...no social media for me, it ruins everything, including your self esteem.

    • Radio
      April 18, 2017 at 4:15 am

      Never heard anyone refer to themselves as a misogynist before. I'm glad I don't have social media so I don't bump into people who disagree with equal human rights in general. (Hint: I'm not a feminist, just believe in equality)

  58. C Man
    May 18, 2016 at 11:54 pm

    Lol none of you are capable of quitting social media for good, I'm a rare exception. No YouTube, Facebook, Twitter, Reddit, Instagram, etc. accounts. It's been a really long time too and I've never looked back.

    Well actually.. I have a FB account with 0 friends or anything, because I need one to comment on websites (which is so stupid).

  59. Abby
    March 31, 2016 at 6:22 pm

    Hey! I'm a junior Journalism major at The College of New Jersey, and am working on a feature piece for my magazine writing class. The topic of my piece is on the effects of social media on communication, and I was wondering if you'd be interested in answering a few questions about your experience without social media for my article? I'd really appreciate it!
    My email is burnsa7@tcnj.edu, please email me if you are interested.
    Thanks!
    -Abby

  60. Christopher Keller
    March 3, 2016 at 6:34 pm

    I have Google+ and that's IT. I don't really consider it a "social media network" as much as I do an "attachment to my gmail" and that's about IT.

    Have I missed out on ANYTHING? Nope! Have I abandon friends, family and the like? I hope to heck YES! LOL.

    Social Media is good for one thing: Wasting a LOT of time. Time is a non renewable resource, and the older you get, the less you want to be "on social media".

    I did have a Facebook account, and got really tired of people "posting their last sneeze" or yet ANOTHER baby picture. Ain't MY baby, it's YOURS! I really don't care about the kid!

    I feel that those "lost souls" are the ones that are constantly on Social Media trying to somehow validate their lives.

    Just one idiot's take on "social media".

  61. Brian
    March 2, 2016 at 3:02 pm

    I absolutely have deleted everything, except my music page on "Bandmix.com" (as I use that to display music I've recorded for potential customers), but since I don't pay for full access, I can't be contacted. Just as well.

    For the most part, I'm a misanthrope, so social media is a time soak, right out of the gate. If I want you in my life, you'll know it...if not, you'll know that, too.

    I do not miss it at all. Especially during an election year. I have friends that are hardcore left, and hardcore right, and they tend to duke it out on my page, or worse...attack me for not being in lockstep with their views.

    Fini.

    • Brina
      May 23, 2016 at 7:32 am

      Well said. Keeping it ?.

      • I hate annoying people!
        June 9, 2016 at 3:57 pm

        WTF! Brina! What a nonsense reply / comment! The reason why he kept it is that he wants to keep his music library and there's nothing wrong with that! I'm a misanthrope too and we have a reason why we've become one because of the annoying people in this society like you!

        • Brina
          June 11, 2016 at 12:05 pm

          Awww look a keyboard warrior!! How cute! You are the reason why people drop social media, because of miserable trolls like yourself. Go back under your bridge, and I'm sorry if you weren't hugged enough as a child. Here is a dog biscuit for your "efforts".

      • Radio
        April 18, 2017 at 4:36 am

        Don't engage the tolls. That's why we left social media in the first place - to finally be free of those people who waste seconds, minutes, or even hours of our lives.

  62. Anonymous
    March 2, 2016 at 2:53 pm

    Social media is like hard drugs. Once you get hooked, it is very hard to kick the habit. Unfortunately, free-lancers need social media to find job opportunities.

    "@bishella if you quit social media then you won't get any likes anymore at all."
    Shows what this person's priorities are. (S)he worries more about being stroked (likes) by questionable online "friends" than about meaningful interaction.

    • Akshata Shanbhag
      March 2, 2016 at 3:31 pm

      You're right. Freelancers do need social media for job opportunities. It has helped me with my past job searches as well. Sometimes it's hard to remember how things worked before social media (or even the web) came onto the scene :D

  63. Dylan
    March 2, 2016 at 2:26 pm

    I went through the same thing in 2013, removed myself from everything other than Google+, on which a game I was playing was reliant.

    The reactions, the lack of in-the-know moments, the peace and quiet of not having to see what everyone had for breakfast or what their cat was doing 9 hours of the day.

    The biggest frustration, as you have pointed out is that these social media sites rule a lot of the login gateways to other interesting opportunities. I have created throw away twitter accounts on temporary email password sites just to be able to get access to learning media. It is sad how reliant the world is on this, and how much time is drains from a persons daily living.

    Like you, my only exposure to it now is business related, and even then I keep it minimal and I am no worse off for it.

    Thank you for your post, was nice to relate to someone regarding this.

    • Akshata Shanbhag
      March 2, 2016 at 3:27 pm

      Good to hear that, Dylan. I'm in awe of people who can take in everything that goes on in social media and yet manage to stay sort of detached from all of it. If I could do that, I probably would't have quit :)

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  65. Bben
    March 2, 2016 at 12:59 pm

    I have a twitter and linkedin account, but I never check them. I was forced to sign up at both for something I was doing. I think my G+ is still alive, but don't expect me to reply. I took a look at FB and ran away. The same people who scream about the NSA collecting their data seem to be perfectly comfortable giving the same data and more freely to FB to be sole to any scammer who is willing to pay. At least NSA just keeps it on a secret server somewhere and doesn't sell it to any one willing to pay.

    I do have several relatives that expect everyone to check FB several times a day and have missed a few family events because I don't have a FB account. They refuse to believe I can exist without FB running all the time. And obviously if I don't read every silly post they make I am at fault for not finding out about somebody birthday party until a week after.

    • Akshata Shanbhag
      March 2, 2016 at 3:21 pm

      Yeah, tell me about it