Online dating has steadily grown in popularity over many years, with websites and apps providing another option for people looking either for “the one” or more casual relationships. There really is no stigma attached to online dating these days, although men and women both still face issues when choosing this route to love or lust.
For this week’s MakeUseOf Poll, we want to know whether you have personally ever tried online dating, and if so, which website or app you used. We would also appreciate it if you took the opportunity to discuss the positives and negatives of online dating, and your experiences when doing it. Dating, we mean, not the activity which comes later.
Perverted Purveyors of Porn
To answer this week’s question please scroll down the page until you see the poll staring back at you. But first, we need to look at the results from last week, when we asked, “How Often Do You Look at Porn on The Internet?”
Out of a total of 661 votes, 35.9% chose Probably once a week, 33.6% chose Every day, without fail, 9.8% chose Multiple times every day, 7.1% chose Once a month, at most, 6.2% chose I never look at online porn, 6.2% chose Only ever by accident, and 1.2% chose Once a year, tops.
These results strongly suggest that most of our readers regularly look at pornography on the Internet, with 79.3 percent of those who voted doing so at least once a week. Just 13.6 percent of our readers either never look at porn, do so only accidentally, or have a casual glance once a year.
We are not here to judge in any way, but on a purely personal level, I was surprised by the results. Does this have something to do with the differences in gender, and the fact that the majority of our readers are male? Or is it just a case that with porn now so readily available online, people are consuming it more now than ever before?
Comment of the Week
We received a lot of great comments, including those from suzybel58, Sherry, and Kevin. Comment Of The Week goes to jake1212, who earns our admiration and affection for this comment:
Up until about mid December, it was every day and often multiple times a day… or worse, for one verrrry long stretch of the day. When I think about the hours I, er, put into online porn, it’s staggering. And this is for years of keeping up that habit.
But I finally got sick of the wasted time and went on a self-imposed porn fast, augmented by a fapping fast too. The benefits were surprising. It was a bit painful after about two weeks of no masturbation, so I gave in on that. Now I try to keep it to a minimum of a few times a week. The porn fast lasted about a month before I caved there too.
However, some interesting things:
First, I found myself relating better to my wife. I’m not sure if that’s because I didn’t feel like I had a secret to hide or because I was more productive or I was just more focused on her as a woman again, or some mix of all three.
Second, I found my “cravings” in the porn category considerably normalized. The more I’d looked at the stuff, the more I guess I’d gone for harder and harder content. But after the break, I find myself wanting to look only at the more normal, natural stuff. I’m even deeply turned off by the hardcore fetish material I used to find alluring.
Now I do look again, and hopefully not on some kind of greased slope where I’ll be back into it as deep or deeper than before. But I only look for a few minutes at a time and once or twice a week. Let’s hope I’ll keep it contained at that level.
We chose this comment because it offers a very honest and open assessment of online porn and how it can affect a person’s behavior. As the commenter discovered, if overly consumed, pornography can damage real relationships and lead to the need for harder material. Neither of which is particularly healthy.
To Date or Not to Date
Online dating is extremely popular at this point, and with none of the stigma attached as it was in the early days of the Internet. Even social networks such as Facebook and Twitter allow people to hook up with other random strangers, but we’re more interested in websites or apps dedicated to connecting people for romantic liaisons.
Please vote in the Poll above, and then explain in the comments section below why you voted that way, and how you view online dating in general. If you have used more than one dating site, just choose the one you have used the most to help us build accurate results.
The more information you can provide with your comment, the more accurate our conclusions can be based on the results. In other words, voting in the Poll tells us something, but adding detail in the comments section below tells us a whole lot more.
The best Comment Of The Week will win our everlasting admiration and affection. At least until we meet back here again this time next week.
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