Do you sometimes feel lonely in the company of others because everyone is pre-occupied with their phones?
If friends and family are so important, why are some of us spending so much time with our phones while they’re around? Technology can be a problem. The challenge is to become more mindful in regards to our own use of technology, change how we behave, and inspire others do the same. Try these fun ways to break the isolation and claim back your friends’ attention.
Share This Video With Your Friends
In the first scene, the video shows a young woman holding her partner, who is checking his phone, seemingly not interested in her presence. In the next scene, she is at the beach and her friend is having a lively conversation on the phone, paying no attention to her. In the third scene, she and a bunch of friends seem to be having a conversation, but one after the other drops out as they become preoccupied with their phones; in the end, only she is left observing them with disappointment.
One scene after the other highlights how we are not being present during everyday activities. Whether we’re with our partner, doing sports, or partying, our phones are always with us, either begging for attention or being used to document the event. If this video helped you wake up to reality, share it with friends who tend to behave the same. Who knows, it might trigger a conversation about how technology runs your lives.
The Phone Stacking Game
If your friends recognized themselves in the video above, they might be open to play this game. The next time you’re hanging out together, ask everyone to put their phone face down at the center of the table; you can stack the phones if you want. The idea is that you will have each other’s undivided attention as nobody can get distracted by their phones.
The first person to reach for their phone, before your time together is up, has to do something for the group. This can be whatever you agreed upon beforehand, for example if you’re at a bar they could pick up the bill or if you cooked together they could do the dishes or maybe the technology addict should do some push-ups. Just make sure everyone agrees to the rules of the game before you stack the phones.
The Mindfulness Bell is a simple Android app. All it does is chime at random intervals to remind you to be present. If you use this throughout the day, it will inevitably chime while you’re with somebody else. This is a great opportunity to briefly explain the concept of mindfulness and what the bell reminds you of. Now it will remind everyone to be present.
Learn About The Mind Together
If the phone stacking game and the Mindfulness Bell weren’t pushing it, maybe your friends are genuinely interested in learning about how the mind works and how they can improve their memory, concentration, and overall well-being. There are so many secrets to be uncovered and the Internet has many lessons in store.
The video is a conversation starter, the phone stacking game a fun way to eliminate distractions, and the Mindfulness Bell is a great reminder for whatever is important to you. As you learn more about mindfulness through videos and conversations, you will come across advanced techniques to train your mind, especially meditation. If you and your friends have come this far, you have practiced a whole lot of mindfulness already.
Whatever you do, remember you can only change yourself. You have the power to put your phone down and return to life. You can recognize the presence of others and be present with them. You can live in the moment. And you can inspire others with what you do.
Image credits: Phone Stack by gabemac via Flickr