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Confession: I am not a parent. So why in the world would I want to write an article about family friendly rules for using technology at home? What parental experience do I have? How am I even qualified to write this piece?

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I was raised on technology, and I’ve learned from parents who had to adapt to a child who is living in a world run by technology. A question to consider: what are the rules of technology in your household?

Let’s see if we can answer that question together.

Don’t Eat Media For Dinner


In the book Fahrenheit 451, families sit around reading scripts out loud to interact with actors projected on gigantic screens — pretty weird stuff. Sadly enough, it seems as though this is becoming a similar reality for the world today. While we may not be reading from scripts during our evening meals, we are constantly interacting with various forms of media on multiple screens across the board.


Televisions, tablets, smartphones, laptops — they are constantly on our person. In the past, it’s been recommended that you shut off the television for mealtimes. Personally, and although I am one who breaks this rule time and time again, I would recommend shutting off all forms of digital media while partaking in a meal. Meals have always served as a common ground for people to connect and open up to each other.

Simply put, don’t let this basic aspect of humanity fade away.

Video Chats Aren’t Just Another Video


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The problem I have seen with this — even with my own parents who are currently dealing with a fourteen-year-old brother of mine — is that parents treat the latter question just like any other form of media. Consider the analogy, though. Video chats allow for someone to visit your home without leaving their own. Your kids aren’t just watching YouTube or Netflix — they are interacting with a real live person.

So the next time your kid asks if they can Skype with her friend, think to yourself, “Would I let her friend come visit this house right now?”

If the answer to this question is no, then consider it when making a decision on the video chat.

Never Clear The History


I’m not saying that you should spy on your family, but I am saying that it may be good to have a general agreement that the family computer is to remain open. That is, anyone could check the history at anytime, but this doesn’t mean that this will be strictly enforced. Does this mean your home could become a tyrannical dictatorship in which all forms of media and communication is monitored?


But there’s always room for good dictators. It’s possible to respect your family’s privacy, and it’s also possible for them to respect the fact that this is a family computer. Otherwise, you might be a fantastic fit for the NSA Could You Land A Job With The NSA? Could You Land A Job With The NSA? If you were to apply for a job at the NSA, would you be a successful recruit? What sort of questions do you reckon they'd ask during the interview? And would you know how to... Read More !

Suggest Media Usage Times


You’ll see tons of blogs all over the Internet suggesting a schedule of sorts for Internet time and such. Although I used to be a fan of this in the past, I have been thinking that this may not be the best option as of late. That said — in this distraction-filled, option-heavy world — it may be good to offer time slots. Try this:

“Alright, you can use the Internet for two hours today. Any time between after school and bedtime.”

It’s flexible, but it’s also disciplinary. You may disagree on this one, and it’s understandable. However, I think it could work well depending on the family.

Stay Flexible


It’s really easy to get caught up in the whole “only by the book” way of doing things. However, the real world isn’t only by the book. Plans change, and when plans change, rules change. Apply this to your family’s usage of technology.

Is there school tomorrow? Meh. Maybe an extra hour of Internet wouldn’t be too bad. Has it been a long time since your kid recently saw their best friend who lives in another state? Perhaps a video chat would be okay — just this once, though.

Use your judgement.


That wraps it up for our family friendly rules for using technology. As a non-parent who is still a member of a family, I’d say these are fantastic ways to keep your family together and responsible on the Internet.

What other ways would you suggest to monitor technology use at home? Do you agree or disagree with the usefulness of the tips suggested above?

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  1. Godel
    September 20, 2013 at 4:43 am

    You left out the big one recommended by all the experts; don't let them access the internet alone in their room.

    All net surfing should be done on a communal computer (or computers) in the living room, where you can keep an eye on them.

  2. Gabrielle
    September 19, 2013 at 6:33 pm

    Interesting food for thought from a tech-raised young adult's perspective. However, this amount of internet/screen time/technology is WAY more than we use in our household. I have a 12- and a 9-year-old. They get 90-120 minutes maximum of screen time TOTAL per week during the school year. Often they get less than 90 minutes during the school year. They get a bit more in the summer or on vactions. Do they complain? Sometimes. But they complain about eating vegetables, too, and doing chores. What's the positive of so little tech-time? They engage with each other and friends face-to-face, in person; they go outside and create a "ninja school" where they practice physically active skills; they do artwork, make up their own card games, read, play instruments. Our family is not anti-tech; but we strive to find a counter-balance for the over-abundance of tech in their daily lives. They will have plenty of time in their young adulthood and beyond to get tech-savvy. In our family, with younger kids, now is the time for other activities. Technology is a tool and we are the masters of it.

  3. nazeem
    September 18, 2013 at 4:22 am

    I will make some changes according to my family and would like to share this with them if you allow!

  4. nazeem
    September 18, 2013 at 4:21 am

    you should add never use incognito wndow too under the never clear the history! :P

  5. Bryan M
    September 16, 2013 at 7:40 pm

    The TV always goes off during meal times and my wife and I leave all computers in the 'office' when we spend time together.

  6. Alex
    September 16, 2013 at 4:11 pm

    Great ideas! And maybe another one is to share this article to the family, and discuss it together so everybody gets involved in a tech-use commitment.

  7. Lola C
    September 16, 2013 at 3:04 pm

    Technology is amazing, but it shouldn't push our family away just because tweeting or instagraming stuff is more fun.

    I really like this article! And it's good to keep this in mind. Thanks!