8 Ways To Exact Your Revenge On An Ex-Partner Online

relationship   8 Ways To Exact Your Revenge On An Ex Partner OnlineWhen it comes to revenge, they say that it’s a dish best served cold. Today, it seems that when it comes to ex-partners and ex-flames, its best served online. Revenge is as old as man and his ego. Heck, they even have bestsellers on the subject.

With the coming of age of the very public World Wide Web, pouring vitriol on your partner has taken on another dimension. It’s like being hauled up to the town square and given a very public tongue lashing. But don’t get me wrong here. I am not writing this post with a broken heart. I am writing it with an inquisitiveness that’s born out of watching such ‘breaking news’ given top billing by even major news channels.

So, let’s check out some myriad (and creative) ways to take revenge on your ex-partner after a relationship has gone south.

 

Use Social Media

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Social media like Facebook and Twitter has turned us into vampiric voyeurs. Just change your relationship status message and see the comments you collect. But scorned partners take it further…much further. Posting images of your ex is by far the most common but suspicious spouses also use the relative anonymity of social networks to pose as someone else and catch their ‘worse’ half’s in the act.

Did you know that Facebook Cheating has found a place in popular lingo today along with Facebook Divorce? Check out Facebookcheating.com for more relationship horror stories. So you really aren’t alone when it comes to venting it out on Facebook or any other social media. Remember Facebook has a ‘Friends of Friends’ sharing option!

 

Blast Away With a Blog

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In simple words – put it out on a blog. If you can start a blog about your cats and their favorite pet foods, why not stick it to your ex-flame with sulfurous words. From the free WordPress to Tumblr, you have options galore.

Auction off on eBay

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If you are looking for an instance, look no further than this woman who started a whole garage sale of her ex-husband’s belongings on eBay. The image if I remember went viral very fast, probably inspiring other entrepreneurial broken hearts in its wake.

 

Ex Revenge Pics Say A Thousand Words

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This is perhaps the most common ways of showcasing your anger. Ex revenge pics by jilted lovers are the stuff of online voyeurs…and all of us have seen a fair share of them. Photo upload and sharing sites like Flickr do their bit by giving you lots of descriptive tags (hate, venom, revenge, feelings, relationships etc.) to use with the photos. Put in a caption and you are set to use photo albums like real world graffiti walls. Oh yes, mark it public.

Go YouTube

Remember Paris Hilton and Kim Kardashian? They achieved intended or unintended notoriety with their sex tapes. You really don’t have to go that far, but just use the visual razzmatazz of YouTube to vlog about your broken heart or an angered one. Tricia Walsh Smith’s  video in 2008 is a famous example. She describes her ordeals and makes embarrassing claims about her husband and his family.

Rant Out On Revenge Websites

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When you are booked in heartbreak hotel, you know that you have to let it out. You will be surprised by the sheer number of websites out there that are jostling to hear your cries. The below mentioned sites are just a sampling, but browse through. Most of them have a community too. Going stag could start looking attractive all over again.

 

Use Google’s ‘Disadvantage’

If you know something about ego-Googling then you will understand what I mean. It’s what Google turns up when you search with your name and see the mentions. The more places you use to extract your pound of revenge with the name of your ex, better are the chances of his or her name turning up on a Google results page (along with the morally loose details of course).

 

The Best Option…Let Go With Good Advice

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But finally it boils down to one simple inescapable fact – you have to let go. The best advice I ever read on the subject was that the best revenge you could ever do to the person who broke your heart, is to let them see that you’re happy without them.  So have your revenge if you must, but then douse the fire for your flame and put out some constructive advice on how you stepped over the broken shards of your relationship. That could be your true cathartic moment.

The Final Nail in the Coffin

What’s not done is posting doctored images. What’s not done is spreading lies. What’s not done is collateral damage on others. The web could be the best agony aunt out there. But do remember that everything has consequences. Revenge is usually a double-edged sword – you will get a few cuts too. You could fall prey to cyber-stalking or even cyber-laws in your part of the world. This article merely seeks to highlight the ways the web is currently being used for extracting revenge on an ex. Good or bad…revenge will unfortunately never go out of fashion.

Have you ever used the web to get back at someone? Did you feel better afterwards? Would you advice against it or promote it?

Image Credit: xkcd.com; Flickr(sweethaa)

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Appalled

Some of this stuff could get you sued, some is ethically wrong too. NOT the kind of article I thought I’d ever see on MakeUseOf. This is incitive stuff.

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Saikat Basu

Well then, all major media channels should also get sued. There are articles appearing every day about some “incident” or the other. Should we walk around with our heads in the sand? This article was written with the purpose of highlighting a very real social trend. It’s out there on the web too. Forums, discussion boards, blogs, a whole line-up of books on Amazon and what not.

I hope someone reads the article from start to finish. I have talked about letting go and what’s not right. This is hardly an incendiary piece.

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priehl

Your mention of major media channels is a red herring; especially in a litigious society (the land of the Untied Snakes) a person would be foolish to document her personal harassment campaign as in the blog you present.

Likewise, ‘heads in the sand’ is entirely misleading: it’s one thing to look at issues as an observer, and in that light this article is interesting. It’s quite another to give ideas and advise (even if you misspell it) readers. You are obviously giving ideas and advice: “what’s not done” (even though I’m sure, in fact, it is; you’re just saying ‘don’t do this’ and by implication ‘the other stuff is OK’ – and then soliciting readers’ personal stories).

That aside, I think the spray-painted car ironically expresses best the immaturity of it all:  on the front it says “HOPE THE PUSSY WAS WORTH IT!” and on the side it says ‘WANKER.” Seems to me the person no longer getting the pussy would be the wanker … or am I being too analytical? ;-)

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Ryan Dube

Actually I thought it was very light-hearted and well done. It’s a part of online culture and community that you can either stick your head in the sand and ignore as though it doesn’t exist, or face it head-on like Saikat has done here.

Well done Saikat – as always.

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MUOfan

Haha this is awesome. May not be ethical but it’s what everyone would want to do…

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C Jones

What’s next – how to start your own “Ethnic Cleansing” Campaign?

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Saikat Basu

If you notice that these aren’t even ideas. It’s just a list of things that is already out there on the web. For instance, just go over to YouTube and check out the viewership figures on the video mentioned here.

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priehl

Equally appalled – what’s not done is describing in a blog your illegal activities! Duh!

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Shyjoesam

It’s life. I love it. If you guys think it’s immoral then why did you read it? This is my favorite site. I don’t like every recommended webapp or software recommended but I still like the site. Some people would like this. Revenge may not be your choice. I don’t want revenge on an ex lover. I want revenge on a family member that has done the unthinkable. Ideas like this don’t hurt. I appreciate this post. Thank you for the great ideas!

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Cell Travis

I think this calls for a complementary article as well — i.e., how to prevent oneself from being maligned by jealous or insecure boyfriends/girlfriends, including other people who spread malicious lies by taking advantage of the supposed anonymity of cyberspace. As much as I hear incidents of ex’s using social networking to vent their legitimate pain, there’s also the darker side where innocent people end up being victims of petty rumors, character assassination and general mischief-mongering that ends up with bad consequences in the real world.

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James Bruce

The best way to prevent? Don’t date someone who’s into all this internet stuff… If they already have a facebook profile, forget them. 

Source: Happily married for 2 years now ;)

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Saikat Basu

These are the new ‘social evils’ and why shouldn’t we highlight it. Awareness is the first step to combat something. As the old saying goes, when you open the window, the bad air will come in with the good. A lot of people don’t realize that writing a blog to bare your pain is like catharsis. It’s almost an individual’s right as venting your anger via a protest on the streets -freedom of expression.

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Jack Cola

Or complain about them on http://www.sharemylife.info

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Saikat Basu

Hey Jack, you are back :) Thanks for sharing that link.

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Jack Cola

Hey, yeah, always still been regularly on MUO, and reading the newsletters.

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Yulilbrat

It always feels better, to kmow what you COULD OF DONE, to the person who you feel wronged you… AND KNOWING YOU ARE “THE BETTER PERSON” for not doing the revenge. Its a pride lifting experience, to know what you coud of done, but didnt.